Dragons and Silver Tears

I realize that the title may sound ambiguous, however I hope it will make sense to you all as you read.

First, Mr Bear’s oldest sister is back in the hospital again. She lives in Katy with her husband and three kidlings. For almost two months now she’s been complaining of severe migraines and pain in her neck. Many trips to the doctor <Internist with their HMO> later, the best he could do for her was to give her lots of pills to take, and he kept saying it was only migraines. About a month ago, she had what we are all convinced was a stroke. Her one side went numb for several days, and the numbness has come and gone ever since. Her speech has drastically changed. She now sounds like a 10yo girl, and has the speech patterns of same <she’s 44>, her cognitive processes have altered, and in general, she no longer sounds like herself. She was referred to a neurologist; however, he said he couldn’t see her until Oct!

Then, on Friday she woke up unable to talk at all. No sound. It gradually came back to where she could whisper that evening. Saturday she woke up, again no voice. Feeling really lousy and shaky; so we got her mom <went to help out> to take her to the hospital, where she was admitted, and the neuro guy called. He said “I don’t think it’s just migraines.” Well, D’UH! <sorry, this has been frustrating> They are repeating the CAT scan, and other tests to see what is really wrong with her. She does have several herniated discs in her neck compounding things. Your prayers would be most appreciated, for her as well as the family, who is not dealing well with this.

Secondly, my brother’s wife’s father is gravely ill up in Wisconsin, and he may well be terminal. He’s very septic, and was found to have a small hole in his colon that had been leaking for no one knows how long. He’s home from the hospital now, but very weak and can’t do much of anything. Please pray for him, and everyone up there. That family has lost 13 people in the last year, family and close friends. I fear what the loss of her daddy will do to my SIL and her daughters. Again, prayers would be most appreciated.

Thirdly, and of lesser importance by comparison, but just as painful in some ways to me, I drove my son up to UT Austin today, where he moved into a dorm and is starting out as a fish. Now, our family at home consists of my daughter, myself, and our three pets. I’ve known this day was coming, have prepared him as best as I could for this big scary world, and said many, many prayers for him. Still, it hurts more than I thought it would. Having Mr Bear so far away isn’t helping me either. Our family unit will never be quite the same again, and I am feeling that loss keenly at the moment. Sure, we’ll see him lots of times, it’s only an hour and a half away. But, he’ll most likely never live at home again. He’s well on the way to being an adult now <he’s 17, btw>.

My daughter’s in bed asleep with the puppy, Sir Wilbur is under the desk near my feet, don’t know where the other kitty is at the moment. This house seems to be getting bigger and bigger, and I hear echos. I have some other dragons, but this is more than enough for now. Thank you all for taking the time to read this. I’d be really lost without my online family here.

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I will keep your family members in my thoughts, purplebear. I do hope everything gets better very soon.

As far as your son going to college goes, I know it is a painful time for you but also look at it as a very positive experience. You will now get a priceless look at how well you did raising such a great young man.

You’re right that your family unit will never be the same again after this. However, just think back. The same was true when you first brought that wonderful baby into your world. The same was true when you added your daughter.

Families change and sometimes (like births of children and grandchildren) the change is amazing and magical, sometimes (like college and moves) the change is bittersweet and uncertain and sometimes (like deaths) the change is sad and heartbreaking.

However, these changes are all part of the great circle of life and it’s just a miracle that we’re all part of it at one time or another.

Be strong, purplebear.

Thank you so much, evilbeth. Your sweet nature belies your username. Bittersweet is exactly how I’m feeling about my *not-so-*li’l bear off to college. <insert smilie with lopsided smile>

I love your next to last sentence. Miracle indeed.

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Dragons? Where? Sir Daniel, at your service!! How can you be lonely, you have us! Do you remeber the scene at the end of Labrynith? We are always here if you need us.

Rushes up to her Shining Knight, and grabs him for a big bear hug. {{{{{{{{Danielinthewolvesden}}}}}}}}

OUCH! <maidenly giggle> Your sword poked me.
You are here for me, as always. Thank you. slightly damp smile

So many things all at once. You must know that the love you give out so freely on the boards will be returned in spades from everyone here. For whatever it’s worth, you’re in my thoughts.

My best wishes to you and your family, purplebear. May your dragons be slain, and your tears no longer fall.

Hey purplebear…you know my prayers are always with you and your family. I also hope all of your dragons are slain, and your tears wiped away. Any way I can help, just let me know…I’m always here for you in whatever capacity I can give.

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Oh honey…you know I’m always here for you if you need to talk. You IM me, okay? My best thoughts go out to you and your family. I’ll be lighting a candle when I get home for all of you.

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Purple, I really hope things work out for her. This sounds exactly like what I went through with my migraines, only thankfully, that’s what they were. I really hope this gets taken care of and that there’s no further suffering involved. For all of your sakes. Hugs from me too. :slight_smile:

VB draws his sword, stands engarde;
“Dragon? What dragon? Where? Damnit, I thought I got’em all!”
Hang in there hon; I’m here for you, anytime you need me. This too shall pass.

As always, you andyours are in my prayers.

Best of luck to you and yours. Keep in close touch with them, and while the online family is wonderful and can be a lifeline in many ways keep your IRL contacts aware of what’s going on and what you need. They are the ones that can physically reach out and touch you. The human touch is what is so special.

Wow. You are all so dear to me. Thank you for your words of support. Yes, Lux, knowing that I’m in your thoughts means a lot to me. You have always been there for me, pipefitter and VB, for many, many years. I am leaning on you both.

Thank you for your sword, VB. Having seen it, I know it’s very sharp!

Thank you, ultress, I am doing that as well. Unfortunately, my closest IRL friends don’t live here, and the ones that do are busy with things going on in their lives, so I don’t want to burden them with this too much.

My tears are mostly gone today, thanks to a good night’s sleep, and conversations with some of my dear friends. Thank you for your prayers for my family members, it is much appreciated by all of us.

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I have to wonder sometimes, when I sit back and think of all the times when not just one difficult situation has arisen, but quite a few dragons rear their ugly heads. I think, ‘Um…how’s about taking a number? Could I just have one at a time?’ But for some reason, I guess sometimes we handle certain events better when we’re a little distracted by others. Sucks, I know, but it seems to be true to some extent.

You’ll be amazed you came through this like the champ you are–and wonder how you did it. It’s what makes you wonderful. Inner strength.

My gramma, (who I miss every day) asked me once what ‘sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.’ She’d read it all her life in the bible and never really understood it. I told her I thought it must mean that we’re never given any more than we can handle. Her response was perfect, “Fat load of baloney THAT is.”

You have got sooooo many people here who love you soooo much. And are with you. Count me in.

Struuter, wow. Blush You humble me, as have all of you who have responded to this thread. I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve so much love from all of you, but I truly do appreciate it and cherish it.

VB once told me he was very happy that he introduced me to this board. <never mind why. :o> I have told him that it is I who am grateful and happy that he did. I have received blessings beyond measure from all of you. Learned a great deal about life, and people, and loving and giving unselfishly, and I could go on and on.
Funny you should mention that. For many years I used to say the same thing. “Take a number, get in line.” and “Ok, Lord, that’s quite enough. I can’t take any more right now.” I learned that every time I dared to say that, He’d throw more at me, as if to prove me wrong. I no longer say that to Him, trust me. As I grow, and learn, and lean on Him more, He gives me the strength I need for that day’s tasks. And, the people I need most always show up too, to help me with the biggest, toughest dragons.
Thank you all for allowing me the priviledge of being a part of this ‘family’.

Reading your OP brought tears to my eyes as well. I’m fairly new to this board, and don’t know people well, but I am struck by the honesty and kindness of many of the posters, and you are one of those.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts, and hope that soon life will be better for all of you.

purplebear, just remember when you have the SD, you will never be alone. :slight_smile:
You and yours are in my thoughts as well.
Rose

She was released to come home this evening, and will find out the results of some of her tests in the morning. It has been confirmed that she did indeed have a stroke. But, the CAT scan and the MRI showed negative for anything else. She is having seizures of some kind that involve her face, and leaving her unable to talk for periods of time. They also are causing her to drop things, making her hands shake uncontrollably for a while.

I talked to her for a short time this evening, and found her voice to be still very unlike her, but better than I have heard it in weeks, so I’m taking hope from that. Her mom is very worried that it might also be a brain tumor, though there’s no strong indication of that at this time. <MIL’s mom has battled 4 brain tumors so far> Kids are more subdued, which is good. And, she will hopefully be seeing the neurologist again soon, and get some more answers.

Thank you to all of you who have replied to this thread. evilbeth, Daniel, Lux Fiat, MysterEcks, pipefitter, Falcon, soul, VB, ultress, struuter, Spider Woman, and Rose. Means a lot to me, and helps me to feel much less alone.

Dear purplebear-

I feel sad that you are having to go through so many difficult things all at once.

I don’t know what to say, except that I am really sorry that your family is experiencing so much illness, I ache for you as you adjust to what seems like the loss of your son (at least as a daily presence) and it really reeks that all this is going on when your Mr. Bear isn’t here to hold you.

I’ll be praying for you, and for your family. You are a really kind and loving woman, and you deserve to have everything work out wonderfully. And if some things don’t work out the way you want them to, I’ll be praying that you will find the strength to deal with whatever comes.

I hope you have lots of people there to hug you, but I’m sending mine along, too.

(((((((((((purplebear))))))))))))
(((((((((((and family))))))))))))

Scotti

Oh, PurpleBear, I’m so sorry all of this is happening. If ever I can do anything to help, although I don’t know what I could do besides just listen, then email me, okay? {{{{{{{{{{{{PB}}}}}}}}}}}}}}