So I go to the mailbox the other day and there it is: a wedding invitation. Real nice people and it should be a real nice wedding. But by Og, it sucks to be single and over 30.
So I have no idea what to do. Can’t think of anyone women I could get to go with me. Don’t want to go stag to a wedding AGAIN.
Any advice would be helpful, but I’m just frustrated and needed to complain (in a friendly MPSIMS kind of way).
Does it say “and guest”? If not, then you have nothing to worry about with respect to finding a date. If it does say “and guest,” just remember that weddings can be a good places to meet people! There are bound to be other single people there.
Do you know any other guys who are also invited? You could get a group up and go together.
Well. where’s the wedding? Perhaps we could have a little friendly competition between all the local doper women…
If you know the people well enough, find out who else is going to the wedding who will also be stag - and plan to go with them.
I go to weddings alone all the time. Of course, being gay and not wanting to date women, that doesn’t bother me. I always have a blast! I dance with all the women who don’t have dates. A wedding reception/dinner with a dance floor and an open bar equals party city to me! And I’m not that much of a dancer usually just that the combo of (especially free) alcohol and a fairly decent band or dj makes me into Fred Astaire! Besides, where else are you ever given the chance to bunny hop or chicken dance?
I was going somewhere with this…hmm… Oh yeah! CapnPitt unless it really, really bothers you to go to a wedding alone, I say go for it and have fun. Especially if it’s open bar!
Oh, I should have made that clear too. The really dreaded part are those nasty “and guest” words.
The guy is a friend from high school (and yes I still hang with some of the old high school buddies all these years later) and there will be other single folks there…but that means there will be at least one ex-girlfriend there. Bad news there.
But missbunny I’d hadn’t thought of it as “there might be NEW single people there.” So maybe that’s the approach to take.
And swampbear it’s assuredly open bar. If any of my friends had a wedding that was cash bar, there’d be a line a mile long to kick them in the nuts! 
But you’re point is well taken, why not just go and booze it up? Well, in my experience booze in the vicinity of ex-girlfriends is never a good idea. Color me maudlin. But I see your point. I just wish I’d believe I could do it.
Keep it coming people, my mood is brightening already.
I second little*bit’s idea. Let’s have a contest!
Win A Date with CapnPitt!
Though I’d like to be Tad Hamilton, I don’t want to violate any rules, especially in light of the attention drawn to the trolling for dates thing. That’s not my objective here. However, I’m in Pittsburgh and email’s in profile.
weddings are the worst. i am perpetually The Single Girl at most social functions. but i figure that’s better than showing up with a different guy every time and being dubbed That Girl 
Yeah, and I’m coming up on my third round of friends’ weddings - first there were the post-high school weddings, when I was around 20. Meh, I technically could have had a date, but I was in college out of state, he lived in another state and the perpetually broke thing typically kept him from being able to attend.
Then the post-college weddings. Those…it was either go single or be “that girl”.
Coming up soon…the post-grad school/second marriages for HS friends (the very few that I keep up with). For these, I’m figuring on it being more fun going single. I hope.
But I sure wish they’d quit including “and guest” on the invite when I am the perpetual single one in my group.
And CapnPitt, I’d volunteer to go (I’m over in Youngstown), but the reality is that I’m not a huge fan of groups of folks that I don’t know.
“And Guest” is not a command, people! It’s not even a suggestion! They are trying to politely let you know that if you would feel more comfortable bringing a date or a friend, you are welcome. In fact, if you don’t bring a date, you’ll be saving them some bucks.
It only gets worse when you hit forty, people.
The Wedding Phase among my frends is over, and now it’s the Family And Kids phase. I’m still the only single one, and I’ve pretty much become resigned to it.
Absolutely perfectly understandable.
I’m just glad that I’m not the only one that feels crappy about this sort of thing. I know that I’m not…but you know…the whole misery/company thing. I do appreciate it folks.
Duh…what I meant to say was “thanks Lsura”
no wonder I don’t get many dates!
But it’s really fun to be That Girl!
It reallly messes with people’s minds.
Why is everyone so concerned with Marlo Thomas? 
Well, kind sir, you’ll have to tell us what weekend we ladies will be fighting over you…
Oh, don’t be silly. These are your friends, for heaven’s sake. Hang out with them and have fun. It could be loads worse, trust me. This summer one of Dr.J’s friends from high school is getting married, and I will have met a grand total of three people at this wedding–my husband, and the bride and groom. I’ve met the bride maybe five times and the groom three or four. And it’s evidently meant to be one of those receptions where everyone gets plastered after dinner. If there’s anything worse than sitting around making inane wedding chitchat with complete strangers, it’s sitting around watching complete strangers get drunk.
CrazyCatLady is right – as always. Look at it as a party with a band and have fun.
If you’re seriously geeked about not wanting to go solo, and no nice Doperette steps up to the plate (sorry, I’m too far away and too old for you) – do you have a platonic female friend who might be willing to do it? Tell her you’ll swap next time she needs an escort somewhere.
That’s actually a good idea. And from Twicks, too! As I posted earlier, I have no problem going solo to these things, but I have been the oh so fashionable escort for female friends who didn’t want to attend alone. They say how bout going to this with me, there’ll be an open bar and I am sooooooo there! I’m doing a friend a favor and gettin’ a party out of it. That’s all win-win to me.