Gee, this is the first time anybody’s ever been tactless in the Pit. I’m shocked, I tell you, shocked.
Since we’re all just kinda throwing our opinions around here, I’ll toss in a few of mine.
Eidolon was right, if tactless. MPSIMS is generally the “tea and sympathy” forum, and I didn’t understand why it was in the Pit, either.
Sometimes I don’t get a response to my moderator e-mails, either, but I just assume that that’s because the moderator in question is too busy reviewing his jackbooted Nazi troops to come to the phone.
Twisty, I don’t think we needed a Pit thread just to chide someone for being tactless. You’re devaluing the whole Pit experience here, mate, and what will the harvest be? Soon we’ll have Pit threads taking issue with increasingly trivial offenses, like grammar and punctuation and spelling…
People talk in breakrooms and at bus stops becuase they want people to hear what they have to say. But if they jump into someone else’s story with a lound “Phhhh, my opinion on that would piss you off”, their behavoir is rude.
There is a difference between wanting people to hear what you have to say that is worthwhile and a need to have people hear every thought that trickles through your brain–regardless of how insensitive, inappropriate, and mistimed it might be.
You’re a teacher, no? You teach because you have something to say to your students. That dosen’t mean you say everything you might think to say to your students.
Don’t you know, Fenris, it’s because we’re in the clique. :rolleyes:
Seriously, Eidolon909, you come across as a big jerk. Everything I have seen posted by you in the short time you’ve been registered has been inflammatory or rude or deliberately mean. Get over yourself.
MJ, may I call you MJ? You’re obviously a mental health professional, or someone with a high degree of education in the associated disciplines. Am I wrong?
Then it should go without saying that the normal social rules and schemas that apply to real life don’t hold for the internet.
Perhaps the enlightened individual would desire internet behaviour to mimic those of public, social settings. I’m not one of those enlightened individuals. inside, the terrible freedom
Sheesh you guys. When I read his comment I thought he meant to imply that:
The OP was probably mistakenly put in the pit and it should be moved.
Out of respect for the subject it should be moved. I could understand her putting it in the pit if the thread was more along the lines of “My selfish friend killed her self, what a jerk”, but she did not express those feelings. Others might believe that she meant to, and then make comments expressing so which would only lead to hurt feelings and flames.
Wait, wait, wait. My entire point was that adults are not under any compulsion to share everything they feel. YOu seem to be saying that this is true for real life, but not the internet. Are you sugggesting that you are under some sort of compulsion to share everything you feel?
I don’t thnk it’s so much about being enlightened as it is about being effective: people that do not adhere to basic social formulae in any situation soon find themselves maginalized, which contradicts your statement about finding an audience.