She needs to be curt. Raised eyebrow. Cut glass voice.
“Is your mother not giving you enough attention at home?”
Then you take him to one side and try to download some kind of social cue protocol handler into his brain.
jjimm is the new girl scared to make a fuss because she is new? Can you assure her that if she dose make a fuss she wouldn’t get in trouble? Also if the new girl is like any Irish women I have known then she’ll be able to handle herself once she knows that it is allowed. If the guy is as much a dick as he seems, then the whole office will be awaiting his downfall, perhapse you and her could organise something.
Idea for starters, New Girl pretends to like desk surfing joke, organise with dick-head to wear beach clothes and surf on the big tables in the conference room, you’ll take photos for them. Girl appears in bikini in room guy in trunks, girl powders nose at appropriate time (hang long coat for girl outside conference room). Persuade dick head to get on table so you can line up pictures. In walks croud for meeting (you called for after work at same time). Hillarity all round.
(OK I guess the above would be well difficult to organise, but you get the idea)
Or, you could always try the incredibly embarrassing approach. Next time he comes in and does something like that, just blurt out:
“Jesus CHRIST! Man, will you give it a REST! She doesn’t like you, now quit acting like an ass, because it’s really PISSING ME OFF!”
That helps demonstrate 1) She has no interest, 2) he’s got no chance, and 3) it’s obvious to everyone else (ie.e his “subtlety” is REALLY bad). Of course, this will kinda make her a little embarrassed as well, but in the end you’d be doing her a favor.
Or, you could just talk to her and arrange to look rather coupley around him sometimes in hopes he gets the hint. But somehow, I don’t think that would work.
Yup, thought I had. You should see my gimps trying to impress the new secretary - every scene could be lifted directly from the Office.
It’s only a matter of time before your colleague tries to either:
- Casually drop into the conversation a claim of martial arts prowess. Bonus points if they’re built like a stunted weed.
- Buy a new “sports” car. Bonus points if they then bash the bumper pulling into the car park too fast.
- Get hideously drunk at the next office gathering, ask the girl in question “Why don’t we go back to your place and fuck?”, then burst into tears when they’re turned down. Bonus points if they then try the exact same line with the sympathetic girl who gives them a hug and tells them not to worry about it.
The above has all happened. I swear the main reason I don’t fully outsource to cheaper countries is the sheer entertainment they provide me with.
OMG Gary- you just brought back the WORST IT creep memory ever.
My then boyfriend now husband used to work for a small company that did computer work for businesses. The main tech there, I’ll call him “Tennis”, was a greasy-haired, smelly, nosepicking, unkepmt person who loved nothing more then to make unbelievably inappropriate comments to women. (I did not know this at the time of the party) On past service calls I’d admired his new laptop computer, which he would always bring with him.
We were at a company Christmas party (bearing in mind that this was a company of 5 at the time), and I felt sorry for him because no one really talked much to him and he looked kind of lonely. Near the end of the night, he leans over to me and says “Why don’t you ditch this LOSER (the man I was LIVING WITH) and we’ll go back to my place. I’ll let you play with my ‘laptop’ wink”
Oh my God, I absolutely could not believe it. He was on one side of me, my soon to be husband on the other- Did I mention my husband is pretty big/scary looking?
http://fff.fathom.org/pages/zette/zetteal.jpg
I was so freaking creeped out that he would just make a suggestion like that that I avoided him until we left, then told my now husband when we got out of there. He wasn’t even suprised and said they had complaints from female customers of him making similar incredibly rude comments. Holy crap, do these people grow up under rocks or what?
“Etiquette 101” and “How to pick up chicks without being a rude and annoying asshole 101” should be required college courses.
This guy is a office supply accident waiting to happen… A bottle of white out inserted up the nostril is a steep price to pay for his rotten flirting abilities.
I may skew it even further. I have a girlfriend and a website and my girlfriend WRITES for my website.
Damn is that just a coincindence or is that standart in Ireland?
I know 2 pretty & smart Irish women who both know really well how to get rid of morons around them…
It’s just a fact that a majority of IT workers are losers when it comes to flirting.
I think this guy has gone well past the line marking the start of “Creates a hostile working environment” as described by sexual harassment guidelines. You shoudl speak with your supervisor, then the H.R. department. Its effecting you and your work at this point, so that’s pretty much putting you in the right.
This guy is about to take the company up liability lane.
You know, people like him are the reason I have to take a sexual harassment training/awareness course at work. Punch him once for me (you can choose the place).
I do the opposite, I completely ignore all the hot women at work, I can’t even look them in the eye.
Some day, when I’m president, you’ll be able to cockpunch guys like that over the internet. It will be a glorious day.
Jjimm, you have to tell him, either to his face, or get one of his friends to do it.
or else bring all the dopers on your next work piss up.
Hey, Ireland’s litigious, but not that litigious (yet).
I’m sure she can handle it herself (as has been mentioned, Irish women are good at not suffering fools). Just to be sure, I’ll have a quiet word with her tomorrow to see if it’s bugging her, and if it is I’ll have a quiet word with him (not a fist fight - as he’s way bigger than me). If she does mind, and he doesn’t stop, I’ll offer to help her escalate it.
However, if she doesn’t mind it, then it’s not a problem. As for it bugging me: it’s a slightly annoying source of amusement, not a major hassle.
I’m just never good enough, am I??!!?? Really, though, I can sort of imagine you doing that while humming Carpenters songs. But don’t you do that to the men?!?
He’s so scary, all the hair ran away from his head.
blowero, I’m telling him you said that!! (He blames me- he had a full head when we met. Hmmmmm)
Ha! You don’t know where I live.
Runs and hides…
Why would he have to? He already knows everything… he’s a PhD!!!
:rolleyes:
Sorry, do I deal with arrogant fucking PhDs all day who insist on being wrong in the face of overwhelming evidence that they have no common sense nor do they have competent training or knowledge outside their rather limited fucking field?
Why yes, yes I do. Grrr…
Hm. I have two personal websites, one of which is now over 40,000 hits. And I have a boyf… where am I on the graph?
I have noticed this. I fear I may have done it, though I’d like to submit in mitigaion that (a) I didn’t do anything that bad and (b) I was 10. My theory is that it’s not deliberate - if you like someone you notice them, which means they get a larger chunk of your personality directed at them, which sucks if you’re a jerk. It’s just a random thought, but how about some office social occasion, that would make clear to her that he’s a nicer person really (very unlikely) or to him that he should refocus his attentions elsewhere, as he’s being a jerk (unlikely)?