So I started a new job yesterday, and basically im working with a few girls. One of them I think is flirting with me, but I’m not sure… Here’s what info I have so far…
She’s been helping me get settled in, showing me what to do etc. When I have problems, I ask her over to help me. My job is in front of a computer, incase anyone is wondering. When I ask for her help, she always comes straight away in a cheery sort of way…
Well today, I asked her to help me out with something. She came over straight away, and she started helping me. Her arm ended up touching mine, but I passed it off as accidental… But then she left it there. She has a nice rack, and it was in plain sight, very close to my arm too.
Anyways, it was around this time that I started to wonder if she was flirting. I began to do little ‘tests’ to see, but I cant be very sure about it.
Sometimes I’d just ask her a question (She works a couple of feet away from me) and she’d come over to talk about it, even though there was no reason to.
At one point, her breasts came into contact with my arm. And again, she just left it there.
She sometimes throws out subtle compliments my way too.
I really cant be sure about this, is there anything I can do that will give me a hint of whether it’s nothing, or if theres something behind it all? Without making any ‘dickish’ moves of course
Well I did some searching about it on the internet, that’s how I found this site. Apparently women sometimes don’t notice that they do this… But I don’t know if that’s true or not.
She probably likes you. So now what? Are you interested in her? What’s the down side if you say something and she’s not interested. What’s the down side if she is interested?
If it’s a job you care about, you should never (and I mean it when I say it) poop where you eat. If you do pursue a relationship with said person, and it doesn’t work out, you will be put in an awkward situation. First, you will be around this person a lot. Second, you will probably have to work with this person professionally.
Lots of people meet their spouses through work. The idea that you should never date in the workplace is silly. Just be prepared for the consequences if things don’t work out, that’s all.
Of course! You can say, “Hey, I was wondering if you’d like to go get a drink with me after work.”
If she says, “Oh, yes, please!” Then she’s probably interested.
If she says, “Oh, great idea! Jan, Sally, let’s go get drinks with the new guy!” she’s probably not interested, but friendly and flirtatious. Don’t take her too seriously, and be very careful to maintain professional boundaries, even if she doesn’t.
If she calls human resources and reports your ass for sexual harassment, you’ve dodged a bullet. Don’t stick your dick in the crazy.
Fishing in the company pool is one thing, but doing it on day 2 of your employment is another. Settle in for a while first and get yourself a work-related reputation first, so you’re not known to your coworkers solely as “the new guy who’s hitting on Amy.”
P.S. On the job, you’re better off not using the term, “girls.”
Presumably you work with grownups who are capable of behaving in a professional manner on the job regardless of relationships outside work, so unless she’s a subordinate or there are rules against dating coworkers, do as you please.
I never notice if it’s boob, side, back, or arm. It never occurred to me to poke men with my breasts to show interest. These things have so many uses.
If she’s interested, she’ll tell you. Maybe she’s just a flirt, maybe overly friendly, maybe she’s crazy about you. I’d give it a few more days before making a move. You know that plot device wherein couples dance around one another for weeks flirting and bumping into one another before they finally kiss? It’s called tension. It’s good stuff. Ride it out.
I’m going to need to see a list. And that list is not allowed to have step 2 being “???” and step 3 “profit”. Nor is that list allowed to have “Hi Opal” as step 3.
But, if the list IS long enough, 1920 style Death Rays, once for 20 minutes, treadmills, and quarries are allowable.
And your warning bells aren’t going off? You’re the “new boy” on the block. What is more important to you, your new job or one of “the girls” making a move on you?
