Hey, thanks for reading. First off let me say I am not saying this is an ideal situation, and I understand all the ramifications. I am asking this question to figure this out.
Here is the deal. I recently started a new job, large organization with a lot of people. There is a female, a few years younger than me, drop dead gorgeous in every way possible. She is married, has been for a number of years. She got married young. When I first started working there I’d pass her in the hallway once in a great while and just say hello. I had absolutely no intention of trying to learn her name or anything else. She didn’t talk much, to anyone. Sat at her desk, minded her own business.
I am also married. I am relatively handsome, sharp dresser, and nice to everyone. As time went on (3 months) and we’d pass more and more we’d talk more and more. One day when I was doing business in her area, when I walked by her desk we started a conversation. Nothing crazy, just a few exchanged. Things progressed from there, in a very reserved manner.
One day around the holidays, not a lot of people at work, I mentioned I had to run an errand (personal errand, away from the office) and casually asked if she wanted to go. She said yes without hesitation. We went, had a great time together. Since that day, we started spending more and more time together.
Now let me fast forward two months. We spend a lot of time together, I mean a lot. We talk all the time while at work, we do not work in the same sections and have nothing related to each other at work, there is no reason for us to talk because of work. When we aren’t together we are talking over some e-communication method. We take little “trips” away from our building so we can be together, alone, away from other people. Multiple trips a day.
The physical barrier is gone.
We hug each other, often, multiple times in a few minutes. And I wouldn’t call them “hello” or “goodbye” hugs. She gets up on her tip toes to drape her arms around my neck and shoulders, I start my hands on her waist, slide them to her lower back, run them up her back and sometimes caress her neck from there. I’d say the hugs last anywhere from 3-5 seconds sometimes longer.
When I leave for the day, she walks out with me, we sit in my car and talk for a long time, and always end on another hug, then she goes back to work.
She always tries to face me, if we are in my car or sitting next to each other on a couch somewhere, or standing. She always has her torso facing me and her legs and feet pointed in my direction. When we first started sitting together she would sit in a chair across from the couch. Now she goes to the couch and sits in the middle seat, before I can get there.
She plays with her hair, flipping it, sometimes smelling it, keeps her gaze on me the entire time, and I’ve often seen her licking her lips. Sometimes she is calm while doing it, and sometimes she seems anxious…in an excited way.
Recently, we both had the day off. We met for coffee. When she walked in, she looked amazing. Hair perfect, make up perfect, killer outfit that I’ve never seen. We ended up spending 3.5 hours together, had lunch, sat and talked, etc. That was our first meeting outside of the work environment.
Are these the signs that she is interested in me, more than a friend?
Do you think I’ve described the signs that show she wants me to kiss her?
Again, I know the situation…