Why don’t you tell her that’s that reason-I’m sure she’ll appreciate your honesty.
He could send a friend over to ask her. That’s what all 12y.olds do, seems to work.
I don’t think this is one of those forums where “Make it didn’t happen!” works.
And the best to you, too.
I would call the OP’s attention to the 2003 murder of Sean Cousins. (no link I am lazy just google it)
All men should beware of the married female who falls all over them. She probably wants you to kill her husband so she can get the life insurance.
It’s fine to consort with them, but you need to learn how to talk like you stepped out of a James M. Cain novel.
”I had killed a man, for money and a woman. I didn’t have the money and I didn’t have the woman."
Stranger
Wait, so there are women who don’t need flowers, one of those huge arrangements with tiger lillies and a bunch of white roses in a fancy vase and then dinner at an awkwardly hipster spot where they don’t even include a side salad with the tiny-ass piece of lamb back shoulder on a saltine-sized square of polenta, and you don’t have to meet her dad and her hippie step-mom who’s in town for the hand-thrown pottery show and she’s brought her dog along --in her purse-- because it’s a hairless weasel-looking mutt that whines ALL the time and it turns out she’s a Scientologist and suddenly all that gushing that Step-Mom Travolta was doing about the beautiful flowers you picked out was just so you’d come to a meeting and your girl is oblivious to all that because she’s super-busy laughing at her dad’s jokes where you’re the butt of his one-liners and she’s planning a trip to some small town nearby but it’s not half as close as she seems to think and it sounds like it’s got nothing but antique stores and little trendy bars where all the drinks are made up on the spot by the bartender and it never occurred to them to maybe put a bottle or two of beer in their fridge in case a less-than-trendy real person stops in and this day trip of hers is going to cost a ton … and instead all you have to do is ice a dude?
If you and she really want to play, you actually could ask your respective spouses. Use your own judgment, obviously, but the general assumption within this thread so far is that well of COURSE they’d go apeshit if they knew. They probably would go apeshit, with justification, if you go doing things behind their backs. But depending on their attitudes and philosphies they might or might not be open to, well, an open marriage. Meanwhile, depending on exactly how you go about talking to your spouse (and she to hers) the fact that you spoke to them honestly in this situation may weigh in your favor as honest partners who share things instead of keeping them hidden, even if they aren’t on board with you actually doing something.
Your mileage may absolutely positively vary. You folks know your own spouses. Use your judgment.
And how did you come by this juicy information? Random slack-jawed strangers letting their gas tanks overflow due to your mesmerizing eyes? Strippers? Do you go to strip clubs? If so, I have a secret for you: they tell everyone that. Or, has your wife made you believe this over the course of your marriage due to how she treats you? :rolleyes:
Let’s be real here. They probably would go apeshit, or at least be very unhappy, regardless of how they’re approached. Monogamy is still absolutely the cultural norm, and it’s a pretty safe assumption for the most part. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen or heard something along the lines of “I’d immediately dump his ass if he EVER brought up having an open relationship”.
If I remember right, you’ve always been non-monogamous, so you might have a different experience than someone trying to open up a monogamous arrangement. It can get pretty ugly. Hell, when my husband and I went through it, people that had known us for years were upset and pissy just finding out about our decision.
He didn’t describe the story in a way that suggested he was considering making this an aspect of his or her marriages that the heretofore unknowing spouses would ever be brought into the fold about. It sounded more like the secrecy and taboo nature of it was an exciting and part of the appeal.
ETA: Sorry, this was meant to be in response to Ahunter3’s post.
Very nice!
Well, yeah … where ya been this century? …
So knowing the situation, you’re what… just telling everybody…?
Thanks for sharing. We’re all terribly impressed.
Yes,* that’s* the real show-stopper here. It would be green lights all the way if not for the AIDS. :rolleyes:
Sounds like she had bacon for breakfast at Denny’s, and is trying to keep the memory alive.
Well, obviously not dating…
So I should recuse myself. And be grateful that I have an excuse for avoiding giving advice that won’t do any good.
ETA: *Mmmm, bacon… *
(Note to self: Do NOT think about bacon when talking to a woman, or they’ll think you’re smitten.)
I don’t know digs, I liked your cute story. Ever thought of a career in writing?
Obviously not dating. Else you would know that hipster side salad is served in a mason jar.
lololololofuckingl Why would you start and continue hugging her knowing she had AIDS but then somehow grow wary of it? Methinks you just threw that little nugget in here in a desperate attempt to put a screeching halt to this thread that really didn’t go the way you planned it.
Oh, I don’t believe for a minute he was being truthful about the girl really having AIDS. I think he was being snarky. He obviously wanted a different outcome to his thread.
Do you think he plans to stay logged on until the mods comply with his request?