What it says in the title line folks: ever fallen in love (or something that felt awfully like it) with someone of the sex that you don’t consider yourself attracted to, particularly to the point that it had you questioning what you believed about yourself? What came of it?
I’m not looking for “I’d go gay for whatever celebrity” thoughts, or crushes that didn’t at least have you wondering what the heck was going on with yourself. Non-sexual crushes are, I think, somewhat common. That “so-and-so is just the coolest I almost wish I were him or her” feeling, whether it’s directed at one’s favorite rockstar or an acquaintance who seems like a rockstar. Awkward to talk about, since nearly all strong attraction is assumed to be somehow sexual anymore, but not that unusual either. I’m more curious about the attractions that were so intense or so wider-ranging that they felt decidedly romantic, even if you couldn’t quite conceive of them being romantic-erotic.
ISTM that if I ever fell head over heels for someone, that person would not be the “wrong” sex. One of the things that leads me to conclude, IOW, that I am not gay or bisexual is that I don’t get crushes on men.
I don’t get crushes on women either, but I used to when I was single.
Not me, but I sure know plenty of people that has happened to. I think part of the problem is that we tell ourselves that we need to make some sort of “declaration” of our sexual orientation. In reality, most of us are somewhere in the muddy middle of the continuum, and convincing ourselves that we are at one end of the spectrum or the other is dangerous.
I consider myself a lesbian - but in my past, I have been in love with males. I do realize, though, that I have not interest in sharing my LIFE with a male!
Sorry, no. But I’m not one to even have really close girlfriends. I do have friends that are girls, but that whole girls’ night out, bonding over pedicures thing while disparaging men thing does absolutely nothing for me.
No, and I’ve never understood the “celebrity” threads either. There are a lot of women I admire for their beauty, but that’s more of a wistful wish I was more like them, not with them.
People say things like that but I can swear to you that I am a 100% straight male and I think there are lots of others like me. I literally cannot tell if males are even attractive to someone else or not although I have tried to train myself to do it. It is almost like being colorblind. I am simply not attracted to males in the least and never will be. I am not wired for it and I don’t understand it.
What Shagnasty said. Except, I can sometimes recognize what’s attractive to a woman, but other times I’m dumbfounded. That’s social conditioning, though, and not sexual attraction (what you mean Sean Connery is sexually attractive?). See, social conditioning, and not sexuality.
I’ve heard statements like this before and I have to wonder how you came to this conclusion. I understand that it’s your opinion, however I suspect you’re disregarding any data that doesn’t conform to the conclusion you want to reach.
So contrary to your opinion, the fact is that I am not bisexual*. Therefore, your theory fails.
*Not that there’s anything wrong with it, yadda yadda.
