Yeah, I’ve definitely done it. Not in a ‘crush’ type way though, or anything romantic at all (well, okay, ONCE), but more like someone whose posts I have come across and seems interesting. I guess ‘get a feel for their posting style’ comes close to it. It’s nice to have some idea what to expect from people you interact with, and the more of someone’s posts you read, the more you’ll know what to expect of them.
Sure I have. Not in a romantic way - it’s just that there are some posters I enjoy so much that I like to see what they’ve been saying and without it I might miss some of their finest stuff. I’ve seen some real gems this way. Isn’t that what the little search button underneath everyone’s post is for?
stalk stalk stalk
Now that I’ve been thinking about this for a day or so…
I will also confess that I’ve been happy when I visit a webpage (or read a post) and discover that a male doper whom I admire is married. As a married person myself, I let out a little sigh of relief and think “Whew, common ground; if we both flirt it’ll be from that same standpoint of ‘this is only a stupid web flirt; this will go no further’”
Not that I flirt terribly often, but when I do, I sorta like knowing it’s all in fun and I’m not being naughty (i.e. hitting on someone who’s actually available, like I’m actually shopping around for some action on the side or something).
That’s also why I like flirting with female dopers. Until one of you convinces me otherwise, I’m not bi or lesbian so this also falls under the heading of “flirting that won’t ever really go anywhere.” Well, except maybe a little hot tongue kissing at a Dopefest. But I am NOT taking my top off! No! Not even for Hamadryad! (not that she’s asked. Yet. Or expressed terribly much interest. yet.)
Yess I have!!!
I’ve stalked - but not so much as a personality study. At different times over my life here I’ve found certain posters interesting and appealing, so I’ve looked for what they’ve posted in my absence. After all, I’m old and married and settled and all that rot. It would be ludicrous for me to lust after a younger stud muffin who I have no hope of ever meeting - if I were inclined to do such a thing. But not me, nope nope nope. Purely intellectual interest. Honestly, I swear!!
nope
Um… [sub]yeah.[/sub]
The only time I’ve ever gone hunting for something someone else said has been when I’ve started a Pit thread (or posted to one) and someone has asked me to back up something I’ve ssaid about their posting style.
I’d say about 1/3 of the time I’ve been off-base and a complete schmuck. Then again, I haven’t done MANY searches, even under those circumstances, because I’m incredibly lazy and have the attention span of a …ooo, look - SHINY!
CrankyAAOM: What, I’m gonna make myself the subject of a CrankyRant on PURPOSE? I think not. And you don’t have to flash me, but wear something tight [sub]and I’ll take one of those tongue-kisses, thanks[/sub].
Thank God, I thought I was the only one.
Can anyone see just who is searching for what? I can only imagine what they’d think of me… 
I’m starting to get worried; it looks like I’m one of the few who has never stalked a fellow Doper. I should be more obsessive, I guess.
Sometimes I get a fan letter from one of the women here & I write them back but don’t hear from them. then I have to search the net for another email address for them cause sometimes my ISP is taken as spam & they dont get my email.
Dear handy,
I feel so silly because here I am, a grown woman, writing a fan letter. But I have to let you know that you are the grooviest dude on this board. I eagerly await your witty, snappy responses that show off your broad range of knowledge and great sense of humor!
I heard that there will be a poster of you in the next Tiger Beat magazine, and I can’t wait to hang it over my bed so I can see you right before I go to bed, and maybe dream of you! (Oh, who am I kidding? I’ll dream of you anyway!)
Your fan,
monster
Of course I have. Why do you think it was so easy for me to fall in love with Spiny Norman when we first met? I mean, besides the fact that he looked like liquid fuck when he walked in the door wearing those hot, sexy motorcycle leathers. Mmmmm Hmmmmm Hmmmmm. I’m sorry, what was your question again?
I really appreciate your consideration in avoiding stepping on my penis - Spiny Norman
Jeg elsker dig, Thomas
Nope, never.
I think some of y’all are being unnecessarily hard on yourselves with this.
I don’t see a thing wrong with deciding, “Hmm. This person sounds interesting. Let’s see what else he/she has written.”
IANAL, but it seems pretty straightforward to me, that if you post something here, it is for public consumption, and we all have a right to read it, current or not.
I was just wondering (and Shayna has proved me right) if some of y’all had used the board as a means of finding “Amour”. I happen to think that is wonderful.
Thanks for your responses, but I think “stalking” is too strong a word.
Quasi
I think at least some are using “stalking” in a joking way. I was just talking to my ex-bf, who is also a member here, and telling him about my trip this past weekend and said, “You know, if you were cyber-stalking me like you should, you’d already know about this.” I think others were using the term in a similar lighthearted way, or at least that’s how I read those posts.
Before said ex-bf and I started dating, when I had just met him and found him interesting, I looked back through some of his posts to see if he seemed like someone I’d like to get to know better. Same with a couple of other fellas around here. It’s a nice resource to have.
I’ve done it. I’m so ashamed. In fact, I may have even done it for someone in this thread…
Gee, I didnt know you felt that way about me! All you had to do was send me an email and then we could start with the…
::quiet whispering::
::Secret Service speaking in hushed tones:::
“Oh really!? Not about me…”
:o
Carry on please.
-runs away with tail between legs
Well, once.
There was a time when it seemed like myself and this one other poster found ourselves in the same threads quite often. When that stopped happening I checked up to see if this person was still around. She was and still is, but it would appear that if I did have a crush, I would be standing in a very long cyber-line. So to speak.
Hmm Well, I fell in love with Singledad before he came on here… searched his posts out when he WAS on here… and now read his posts elsewhere… does that count? LOL