Show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a guy sick and tired of putting up with her shit.
Hey now. :dubious:
Yep, same here.
Closest I’ve had to the OP, is going on a couple of dates with a girl who was very hot but all the crazy, and deciding that dating her wouldn’t be worth the stress.
Did your friend slap you?
Thanks for the feedback guys. I feel less like a jerk now. lol
Mission accomplished. 
I’ll pile on, too.
My first wife, who was quite attractive and talented in many ways, was only 60" tall but had beautiful 34-DD breasts. Her cleavage was heart-stopping.
While married to me, she earned her BS degree and two Masters degrees. We split up (amicably) and she immediately went on to earn a Doctorate. She’s now Dean of Students at a college in the midwest and has written/published reference books.
I’ve dated a number of attractive men.
However, one was so good looking that women would actually stop and stare when we walked into a room together.
Once when he and I were out together, he went to the men’s room, and some woman walked up to me and asked if we were together. When I said yes, she said HOW!!!
Well, one reason is because I never would have been so rude to ask that question. I wouldn’t even be so rude as to think that question.
What was kind of funny though was that I never really noticed how good looking he was until I noticed other women looking at him. Partly because he wasn’t my type physically, I prefer dark hair and men with a little meat on them. Also, because he was a friend’s cousin, so I always thought of him as so and so’s cousin and never really looked at him.
Anyway, I broke up with him because that friend was more than a little bit crazy and I was trying to distance myself. Also, because we had absolutely nothing to talk about when we were alone together. Good looks and hot sex are fun to date, but not enough to sustain a relationship.
When it comes to someone you may or will live with…what benefit are looks if you can’t stand to live with them? It’s like buying a Lamborghini and go to Menards expecting to haul some 4x4 posts. Everyone likes nice looking things including S/O’s but it/they must fit your needs first and foremost.
I feel it necessary to point out, given some of the comments in this thread, that plenty of people are smart, witty, compassionate, level-headed, and smokin’ hot. It’s not fair, but it’s reality. It’s not like we all have to choose between someone good looking and someone awesome. But it’s also true that good looks are really not worth a bad personality. Nothing kills my attraction faster than an asshole.
Yes! My most recent ex is pretty attractive, at least to me. He’s the only guy I’ve dated who put significant effort into exercising and eating well. He’s a great person, too. We split up because our emotional relationship just sort of fizzled out, and neither of us would stay in it just because of physical attraction. After the breakup, I definitely experienced some of what the OP is describing. It has faded, though, so there is hope!
I was with a girlfriend for the better part of 8 years… I know she was gorgeous and I know she had a great heart, but her tendency to think aspects of life when it comes to romance were supposed to be straight out of “The Notebook” (e.g. if a fight happens, i would have to run after her… pfff) and how messy and disorganized and constant whining about trivial shit… i ended it. I couldn’t put up with it anymore. I know if it doesn’t work out in the future I will wonder if she was the one that got away, but as of now, I am ready, willing and able to take that chance, at least to save myself the impending heart attack from her stress rubbing off on me. That saying is right, about putting up with shit. I’m already on the prowl, but being in such a long relationship kind of dampens your skills, gotta hone them up.
Hell no; she laughed her ass off. Ditto when I was dating a blonde and I told her, “In my experience, it isn’t blonde that makes you stupid, it’s bleach.”
Got yes. And it wasn’t just me: we /all/ thought that. I remember one of my friends reporting that he’d seen her riding past on a bicycle, and thought to himself “I’ve wasted my life” (because I’m never going to be her choice). ‘Reverse halo effect’.
Can’t respond to the OP though, becaue I never got anywhere close to being someone she broke off with…
By the time you need to break up with someone they are no longer attractive–by definition. It really doesn’t matter what they look like.
Not true in my case. When I think about the ex I broke up with, over 30 years ago, I still think of him as being very hot. What’s gone is any desire on my part to touch him… even in the unlikely event that he’s still as hot as he was back then.
It took me a very long time to realize that the kind person I should be with, if they even exist, is not the kind of person that I’m extremely attracted to, physically or otherwise. In my defense, it is a bit counter-intuitive. And please note: This may well only be applicable to me, in particular, YMMV.
If I’m ga-ga about someone, I turn into a blithering idiot, and start drooling on my shoes. Not a good look, and not a great basis for a relationship. If I’m less attracted to someone, however (not actively repulsed, mind, but more “I can take it or leave it”), I may be less invested, but I’m a much better person, and a much better person to be with, in every conceivable way. More level-headed. More charming. Much nicer. Less of a constant emotional wreck. And actually more caring in the ways that matter. Maybe a relationship where I’m that kind of me actually stands a snowball’s chance.