Gosh, I wonder why HSHP’s girlfriend broke up with him. Does it have anything to do with the fact that he refers to other human beings as “things,” and that he is so obsessed with his ex that he has tracked down a recent photograph of her sharing a private moment with her new boyfriend?
Dude, get over yourself. Not only are looks not everything, but everyone has different standards. Most of the guys I am attracted to (yes, on a physical level) are not considered classically handsome. Either post a photograph of yourself and the new guy so we can truly bask in your superiority, or shut up and leave the girl alone. If you look anything like the obsessive, narcissistic side of your personality displayed in this post, trust me, you’re not all that great.
Yeah, I think that’s what I was getting at (and your analogy in the OP, too, HSHP).
continuity eror, I can see what you’re saying based on this thread alone, but HSHP has posted a lot of his history with this ex here, and she sounds like a real piece of work. I don’t get that HSHP is awfully vain or anything, based on other threads he’s started.
I’m with Indygrrl. My ex-wife’s three succeeding marriages were simply proof that she didn’t know how good she had it with me.
I did have an ex-girlfriend who joined the convent. I couldn’t really get upset at that either, as it was obvious proof that she also could not find anyone better than me.
Don’t worry, I know why. You would as well, if you used the “Search” function.
Not “beingS,” just one.
Where did you get “tracked down?” Where did you get “private moment?” Are you looking at a differnt picture?
You’re reading an awful lot into very little.
Dude, get over ME.
Never said they WERE everything, and “everyone has different standards” doesn’t hold water when you’re trying to discern one set of standards from two examples that are supposed to be representative of that one standard.
Not only do I not care, your example is out of scope. I used looks in this instance, but the poll is about “trading down” in your opinion as an ex, with regard to the new SO. Please try to keep your insecurites of of the thread and stay on topic.
I have left her alone. But the world is smaller than I’d like it to be, which is why we’re here in this thread. It’s not the theft of the crown jewels, sweetheart. It’s a girl I used to date getting on with her life.
Wait, didn’t you start this off by decrying judgment based on looks? I guess you’ve come full circle.
Your snide and snippy post, it is to rolleyes.
Ya know - I’m not sure that straight members of one sex really have any idea what straight members of the opposite sex think is attractive.
There are women (celebs) that I think are hot, that most of my male friends think are NotSo Hot. There are woman that I think are really quite plain (Jennifer Aniston comes to mind) that men, including Brad Pitt, think are hotties.
Obviously, I haven’t seen this guy, but maybe he’s got a certain something that woman find hot - a la Steven Tyler or Mick Jager - objectively, both those guys are pretty funny looking, but I have a feeling they do OK with the ladies.
Okay, I get that you think the guy is unattractive, and feel pretty bad about it. I guess I should have realized you wanted this thread to be an ego-stroke right off the bat, but I didn’t. Sorry. Personally, if I broke up with someone in a bad way I would make a special effort not to look at/talk to/find out stuff about them anymore, small world be damned.
Years ago the guy I was engaged to cheated on me with and left me for a gal who (in my estimation) was not as pretty as I. But she was skinnier. I vowed that would be the LAST time somebody ditched me for that reason.
(He also may have left me because I was married to my career at the time and not only had no time for him, but was a stressed-out bitch besides. He shouldn’t have cheated, but there you are.)
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Does it seem like the Doperforum is the BESTEST place to start a conversation, get some momentum going, only to have a rabid someone go off the deep end and freak out about it?
I know it’s happened to me three or four times.
Me, I’m just glad my obsessive-compulsive-Manic-Depressive Trust Fund Baby has some unclaimed tax refunds she never bothere to collect…it’d Drive here NUTS if she knew. I never met the next guy, I’m just glad as hell I didn’t marry her.
Well if they’re already an EX then it doesn’t really bother me that much. It was being cheated on with an ugly person that really got to me. The excuse my boyfriend gave was that she had bigger boobs than me. It really pissed me off because otherwise she was fat, ugly and stupid. It is awful being cheated on with a fat ugly stupid person, regardless of her bra size.
I haven’t the slightest idea with whom any of my exes are now. Except for the very latest one, who is now the “man on the side” for an engaged girl who looks a lot like me, except somewhat thinner. That was trading up, right? So I don’t know how I feel about trading down because as far as I know, all my past lovers retired to sparsely furnished monastery or convent cells.
That’s also a great way of looking at it. Until now, I don’t think I have ever wondered what ex’s did after me. They just sort of cease to exist for me after we are no longer together.
continuity eror, you’ve either seem to have forgotten how to post in IMHO, or you’ve gotten lost and think your are posting here. If the former, please read the forum description and keep the snide asides to yourself from now on. If the latter, get a map.
Happy Scrappy Hero Pup, the next time you feel that someone is posting inappropriately, could you please just use that little “report this post to a moderator” button?
Thank you.
If I were to get dumped by someone who later dated someone truly hideous, it would make me feel better: obviously the reason that person dumped me is because their aesthetic sense was warped beyond all reason.
My last ex, who has been my ex for over two years, still hasn’t had a date since we broke up. So I have no one to compare myself to! It’s actually kind of depressing, if you think about it.
But I can imagine how it would make me feel to see his “new girlfriend”. If she were prettier than me, I would probably silently laugh to myself because obviously she must think he has some redeeming qualities which aren’t there. And if she were uglier than me I would probably laugh as well because, hey, she’s uglier than me plus he wasn’t attractive anyway so I’m sure they’ll go good together.
