An ex-co-work-er who moved several states away sent me a friend invite; I clicked ‘accept’ without a second thought. Bad move.
She is a SIMP (Serial Inspirational Message Poster). I counted more than 25 (then stopped counting) posted within the last eight hours.
Exhibit A: “Some times you have to do what’s best for you in your life…not what’s best for everyone else!”
Exhibit B: “God didn’t give you the strength to get back on your feet so that you can run back to the same thing that knocked you down!”
Want more? Didn’t think so. Don’t forget to imagine each Pearl 'O Wisdom positioned atop a beach scene, a flower, or a sunset.
This “friendship” ain’t gonna last. My first instinct is to not offend her, but then I thought shit, she’s already offended me.
I am curious, though; will she know that I revoked her generous offer of friendship?
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(Seriously, she just now posted another as I went back looking for examples)
If you mouse over the upper right-hand corner of one of those posts, there will appear a little down-arrow. Click it, and one option should be “I don’t want to see this.” It should give you a “why not?” question that you can answer with their “it’s annoying or not interesting” option. That should help tell the site algorithms to filter out the glurge from her.
You can click the “I don’t want to see this” button next to the post, and hide all her posts from your feed. I have a couple of FB friends like that – nice enough people that I don’t want to defriend them, but so much crap that I don’t want to read any of their posts.
No, she will not get a notification if you unfriend her, but of course if she realizes she is missing a friend and checks, she might know it was you. Hiding her is the least confrontational option, but could there be backlash if you do unfriend her, given that she’s an ex-coworker living hundreds of miles away?
Alternately, if you click on her name such that you go to her personal page, you’ll see next to her name (in the photo “banner” across the top) a box that says “Friends” with a drop-down arrow. Click that and one of the options is to change which items you see. It’s probably on “Most Updates”; pick “Only Important” instead.
Facebook would be absolute torture without the option to hide people’s statuses from my news feed. I wonder if those people who hate fb so vehamently know of this feature.
Yep. I’ve got a friend who seems to think every tiny revelation in her life needs to go on fb, so I culled her. Next time I saw her I was asking about her husband - apparently she’s been breaking up with him all over facebook, sharing thoughts and experiences. A heavy silence while she realised I’m oblivious.
I joined FaceBook to return lost property. Seriously - I got this package once with no return address, found someone on FaceBook in the area with that name, had to join to contact her. Much later on, I found a student ID card, went back on FaceBook (after ignoring it for almost two years) to arrange for its return. Then some real-life friends noticed me there, were all “welcome aboard” and shit.
I just go there to play Battle Pirates, mostly.
Question - I’ve been doing this “I don’t want to see this” - disappearing pictures and such from almost EVERY site that sends them. Without answering the ‘why not’. Just because I want to keep the more interesting things to come back and look at in closer detail later, and get rid of the boring or repetitive things so I’m not on FB until the early morning, looking for Martha Stewart’s recipe.
I have a vague feeling I am not getting updates from some sites. Would clicking "I don’t want to see this’ without providing a reason mess things up?
And whatever happened to the ‘hide’ click? I would rather ‘hide’ a black and white picture of Frank and Ava than have to click again explaining why.
I have several people like that, too. Okay, you (don’t) love Jesus, and/or you think Obama’s an a$$hat. WE.GET.IT.
BTW, saying Obama’s an a$$hat? I’ll let that slide. Racist memes, or those advocating his assassination? Bye-bye.
One of the people I unfriended for doing this is a small-town business owner, and the business is in itself apolitical. If you are a public figure (and being a small-town business owner, IMHO, counts), you should not be doing things like this. There’s another woman, who I see IRL, who spams her wall with religious and political messages, and if the topic ever comes up, I’m going to tell her that she really needs to refrain from doing this, because she’s in the midst of a career change and some of those posts could interfere with her getting a job a couple years from now. Among other things, she was one of those people who believed that the Sandy Hook shooting was orchestrated by the Obama administration to get guns banned, and that any day now, marauding hordes will be breaking down doors without a warrant and searching houses for unlicensed arsenals. :eek: :dubious: :smack:
Ya know, if you do have that in your house, you might not want to post, or imply, it on Facebook. Ditto if you are probably a sovereign citizen and do not pay taxes; one of my HS classmates apparently is, and I found this out when I looked at her profile because I considered sending her a friend request.
Bashing your ex, or STBX, on Facebook is not wise either, especially if you have minor children.
