My girlfriend has a Facebook page as a requirement of her employment. She hates it, but does it. The company had someone come in and talk to them about using FB as a business tool.
I have a Facebook page strictly to goof around with. Some of the things I post make my gf :eek:. She has approached me several times, pointing out how un-PC or otherwise improper a post of mine is. She worries people will be upset. Then it gets 85 likes and is shared left and right. I know my audience.
So, my gf would rather not see my posts and the easiest way would be to unfriend me. We are both cool with that. But she has “in a relationship” with me.
Would anyone know if she unfriends me (she doesn’t want anyone to know). Would it affect the “in a relationship” status?
It might be easier if she puts you on her “restricted” list. That might make your posts never show up for her. You’d have to test it out I guess. (they’re constantly changing how it works)
Or possibly it’s you who has to put her on your restricted list. If both of you do it, that should take care of everything. (she can’t see your posts)
When you post something that would upset her, you can make it visible to a group that doesn’t include her. Just click on the arrow to the left of the “Post” button and you and designate who gets to see the post.
I’ve outlined all the suggestions here and I’ll leave it up to her. As far as me hiding posts I think she would find improper, it would never work. I usually post drunk.
No, from her side she can easily prevent anything you post from showing up on her wall, without affecting the “relationship status” in any way. It’s a trivial action, takes all of 2 seconds.
If she’s only using FB for work – and reluctantly at that – why is it necessary to broadcast her relationship status in the first place? Isn’t it possible for her to simply omit that part of her profile?
I suggested this to her originally. Many of her coworkers know me. A few have friended me. She is very much into her privacy (hence her hate of FB) but she used the “in a relationship with” to help cut down on getting hit on. Deleting the “in a relationship with” thing would also make people wonder (per her).
It has nothing to do with the medium and everything to do with the people (and company) involved. You can stir up this kind of “drama” anywhere, not just on Facebook.
This is starting to get into IMHO territory, but I don’t see why someone that doesn’t even want to participate cares so much about the relationship status is and that “people will wonder.” So what? For the couple of months I had an account there, I had nothing on there—no picture, no info, not even my real name. If I got a friend request, I ignored it. If someone is forced to get an account, they can put as little as they want there; one would think someone that doesn’t even want to be there wouldn’t care what others on the site think.
She can also make her personal information private, change her relationship status, then make it public again. No notices will be sent for a relationship status update so unless someone is looking they’ll never know.
Indeed, why I was just remarking to Wentworth over a mint julep on the verandah how I’d been meaning to get the roof over the conservatory fixed but what with the food shortages in Africa, I just don’t know when I’ll have the time to manage my problems relating to my prosperity and wealth compared to the majority of people living on earth.
