Hello, you don’t know me and I don’t know you but I just wanted to tell someone that my father died last evening aged 81. My mother died last year aged 75, but as I have an older brother and sister I’m not the senior “X” yet. Seems like it all started going wrong when I had a son five years ago, so I’m safe until he procreates, right?
I was very lucky in that I was able to talk to them both before they got too ill to notice me, and I made my peace. The last memory of my living Dad will be holding his hand like I was a kid again. Unfortunately my ex turned up and spoiled the last few hours, but what are you going to do.
Goodbye Dad, things are a little worse without you.
Yes, the loss of a parent is not like anything else. I’m sorry for your loss and I hope that having a son and siblings will make things a bit less lonely. Sorry your ex showed at the wrong time but then again sometimes a distraction is a good thing. One thing about the Dope is that we all care about one another even though we don’t “know” each other. So if you need someplace to talk about things, here we are.
Condolences. It’s not easy. You are fortunate to have spent time with them both at their ends. I only got that opportunity with my father, who passed over 21 years ago now.
It’s hard. This Friday is 2 years since my dad passed. The pain and missing gets less acute, but it’s not gone. And occasionally it hits me fresh, out of the blue.
I’m glad that you were able to spend time with both your parents at the end for you and for them.
I’m very sorry for your loss - it’s never easy, no matter what.
Been about twenty-five years since mine passed (passed, what a nice term - he had a violent end), and you never completely come to terms with it. The child in you will say, “It’s not fair!”, and the adult in you will sadly agree that “No, it’s not.”
You will find your equilibrium, but as people have noted, it will occasionally be knocked out of whack. Then you regain your footing and continue on, because what else is there to do.
Thank you all so much for the kind words, and condolences to everyone who has been through the same thing. The loss really sucks, but chin up, he wouldn’t have wanted to think he left so much sadness behind.