This question is for both sexes. I am curious, if you are comfortable sharing. What is your preferred way to get off when with a partner? I grew up thinking intercourse was better than oral which in turn was better than a handjob, etc. Now that I am older I realize that it is not that simple.
Besides the psychological component, physically I have found some things do feel better than others. Objectively so. I have also found that things which I thought would be incredible weren’t, and things that I thought would be terrible were pretty damn good. I don’t want to go into too much detail to start, because I’d like to hear other people’s experiences first. Anyone have tips on how to make your orgasms better? And yes, I know lovemaking is all about the journey not the destination, and I agree. But everyone who has had achieved orgasm with a partner on multiple occasions has had that one great orgasm that was better than all the others. Did he or she do something specific that you liked?
I hope this question is not too prurient. I am not looking for penthouse letters. Rather I would like to know what you prefer, both to celebrate our differences and perhaps find some commonality.
My best routine orgasms are the penis in vagina types, but that’s just because my wife’s vagina is perfect. The best, most emotionally powerful orgasm I ever had was a blow job in the breast feeding room at my company’s gym.
As a straight male, my personal favorite methodology is PIV balls deep with female partner in forward cowgirl position to cap a off a lengthy tantric session.
Thanks for the jokes you guys, but if you can give me more concrete answers I would really like to hear them as well! Don’t want to sound like I don’t appreciate good humor though!
I dunno…the hot tub created this layer of water that inhibited friction…i think i still could have got off, but it was definitely a different sensation.
This is apropos to what I was going to mention: I can’t speak as much to PIV orgasm, but going “balls-deep” in terms of oral, i.e. deepthroat, in my experience, is not all that great…because, and I hesitate to put it so graphically, while it feels good, it’s almost too much going on, and nothing controlling the event. There’s really not as much fine control as I would want. (Then again, I do suffer from a spinal cord injury, so my sensation is wacky in general.) I mean, it’s not like a hand, where you can actively guide yourself. This may be why you see men in porn use their hands when they’re ready to ejaculate. I’m sure part of it is for the “money shot”, i.e. the visual spectacle, but I wonder if part of it is because only using your partner’s mouth alone just doesn’t provide enough strong stimulus, and everybody hates an orgasm that isn’t up to par. Has anyone else had this experience? For me, then, I would prefer to be “3/5 of the way to balls-deep” in that!
As a side note, I’m also curious about how enjoyable women find men who perform only oral on them…i.e. no manual stimulation by either party.
I feel like I’m crossing some horrible boundary by posting such prurient material. Tell me I’m okay! If not, mods, feel free to close this thread. I am no prude, but I know this is totally graphic. But I only ask for information and perhaps finding solidarity in someone who has had similar experiences and preferences.
I agree. The water is chemically treated for one thing, and the wateriness of it interferes with natural lubrication. And in my experience the water is too hot for the activity. I was uncomfortably overheated when last I did it in a hot tub and I don’t remember if I came or not.
I have to agree with you, pianodave. Deep throat feels great, but it is difficult for me to orgasm during it, for the reasons you mention. It is a great accessory to sex, though. I would never turn it down. In order to climax from oral stimulation, I like a simultaneous combination of hand and oral. A willing and talented partner can make that a great experience.
My wife, though we were not yet married at the time. It was late at night, and we had the place to ourselves. We turned the lights down so it looked like no one was home. The breast feeding room is the only cozy place in the gym – a small, carpeted room with a nice recliner and mini-fridge. Also a lock on the door.
