Inspired by the “I don’t wanna have sex right now-- do you?” thread here, I wanted to raise an observation of mine, and see if there is any truth in it.
For the record, in my experience, I tend to observe the “ten second” rule discussed in the previous thread: most women will rule out getting involved (sexually or romantically) with a man in a very short amount of time. Ruling in may take longer (ten seconds to ten years), but most women size up a man in a very brief period of time.
Starting from that vantage point, I’ve noticed an odd occurence over my life.
Basically, when I meet a woman for the first time, I’ll pay attention to how quickly they name-drop their boyfriend/husband. Randomly, for no reason, they will find the most awkward way of inserting into a conversation the factoid that they have a boyfriend/husband.
WTF is THAT all about? It’s a complete non-sequitur, but it happens, often enough that I notice it.
It’s funny, because it just seems like such an obvious and awkward way to immediately throw a man off the trail. It’s even funnier when it’s done when I (the man) have no interest at all in the woman I’m speaking with.
It appears like there’s just this quick logic trail at work in women’s minds:
Of course, the flip side is, men never do this. We wait a long time to mention our girlfriends/wives because we (the negative view) like to keep the options open or (the charitable view) don’t bother to even think of it, because we’re not naturally worried where flirtation might lead.
So. . . women, have you ever done this? Intentionally, or by accident? Men, have you run into this behavior before?
