I can’t tell anyone IRL this news yet. But I have to tell somebody or I’m going to explode into bits of confetti, happiness, and intestines. So, I’m sorry in advance for being overly bloggy.
My fiance just “celebrated” his 5th anniversary as a computer tech at a retail office supply store. About 4 months ago, he applied for an internal tech support job at my company (a bank). He had an interview that seemed to go well, but then… nothing. The follow-up contact he received, such as it was, had always been initiated by him. We had assumed weeks ago that he didn’t get the position. Until finally, yesterday he got a call. **
HE GOT THE JOB!** He’s going from part-time retail wages to making more than I do! :D:D:D Pudding proof that he’s criminally underpaid for his skills. But yaaay! I’m bursting to tell everybody! Our *entire lives *are going to change. For the first time in my life, I’ll be part of a household with income above the median. We can commute together, so we’ll see each other every day instead of missing each other when he works evening shifts. We’ll be able to look for a nice apartment. We can afford a decent wedding. And after a few years, we can even buy a freakin’ house! omg!
This is the best feeling I’ve felt since falling in love with the guy. :o
Just hope your company doesn’t have any rules forbidding related employees from working together. This happened when my daughter got married. Company rules forbade the employment of spouses if one was in a supervisory position. She chose to quit and get another job since his paid more. They didn’t even work in the same department, but rules is rules, apparently.
If you need to I can google “10 things you can do to your computer to make it seem like it’s broken but it’s really an easy fix” so you can keep having to bring in tech support to your office
Not to rain on your parade, but working and commuting together can sometimes NOT be a lot of fun. Be careful with one anothers space. The whole get up together, commute together, take breaks and eat lunch together, and commute home together can sometimes wear you down. Well, it did for me anyway.
Oh yeah, no. My supervisor and HR are already aware of our relationship. I didn’t want that to come back to haunt me later, so I made sure it wasn’t a problem before he even applied. We won’t be working in the same department, which is the only thing they would kibosh.
Thanks! Wait… eeew
This is the biggest challenge. I feel ready for it. I have a slightly greater need for personal space and independence than he does, but it hasn’t been a problem yet. It helps that our hours will likely be slightly different, and we almost certainly won’t have lunch together. Good point though. I appreciate you bringing it up, in case I hadn’t thought about it yet.
Do not visit each other except for legit business needs. If you spend time pawing over each other, you will find one of you, or both, out of a job.
There is nothing worse than having to watch two puppies going at it - and management isn’t going to appreciate the lost productivity,
You arrive together, you may or may not leave together - what if one is required to do overtime?
Anyway, once in the building, you don’t see each other except at lunch or regular time off - and that does NOT mean that you use your time off to go “visit” (destroy the productivity of) your sweetie.
You’re grown ups - this is a great opportunity in a scary job market - please don’t blow it.
Definitely make sure to give each other some space. Everyone should be permitted to have no questions asked alone time. But this sounds great for your future together. Congrats!
I work with a couple who inadvertently ended up in the same office on the same project. They are newlyweds, and were both shocked to discover they’d both been hired for the same project.
…and it’s working out great. They’re both mature and are the de-facto leads (their area of expertise) on what we’re developing. I was on the project for a week before discovering they were married. They’ve been working together on this for over a year and there are zero problems. My WAG is this is more likely to work out for younger couples than older ones, due to differing expectations of marriage (but that’s for another thread, I guess).
I wanted you to know it can work out really well for mature couples who understand space, and separate work issues from home issues. Congrats to you and spouse, and wishes for a fun and profitable time at your jobs.
You’ll be sure and tell us about house shopping, right?
Oh yeah, maintaining professionalism is definitely not a problem for me. Ironically and/or hilariously, my boss is married to the woman who will be my fiance’s boss (so same situation, reversed genders, one rung up the corporate ladder). And they’re both awesome people who set a great example of how to act. No PDAs in the office, that shit is gross.
Hope all goes swimmingly for him as he starts the new job, too!
