As a counterpoint to the hating dating thread I will submit that first dates are fun! Yes they are scary and you will get the nervous butterflies but it is the good kind of scary: the scariness of possibilities. You might find a story of horror you will tell for the rest of your life; you might find the love of your life. More likely it will be something in between where you have a good time with an interesting person or a boring time with a drip but you don’t know until you dive in and that’s what makes them so good.
So ask that person out or say yes if that moderately interesting seeming person asks you out and see what happens because first dates are fun!
Now relationships, on the other hand, are hell and I won’t defend them
I’m considering throwing myself out into the world of dating, so I’m hoping you’re right. I’m somewhat concerned that I haven’t had a first date since the Reagan administration…
Well my first date was last night and we had a nice time. Planning to see each other again soon. Conversation flowed the entire evening without a lot of quiet moments and we were already discussing future plans.
Come to think of it, our first date was back then as well. And after quickly moving back to my apartment, we were sequestered from Friday night to Tuesday morning. Damn, I had so much more stamina then.
I’m in agreement with this. I always enjoyed my first dates, even if they turned out to be last dates. Conversation with a new person. Socializing. Maybe getting some hints on other potential dates (rare, but it does happen). I loved first dates. Indeed, some were zeroes, but that’s what dating is all about.
And on even rarer occasions the women I’ve dated became wonderful platonic friends. Amy F., if you are reading this, you are one.
