I am posting this because I respect the opinion of the members of this board.
I hope someone can help with this. It’s a slightly different take on the bad boss thing.
My boss really does not like me; he’s pretty bad in a roundabout way. A rather benign example - I will ask for something that would require the department spending money on me, he’ll say no, I say okay, I am disappointed. Of course, there was an earlier conversation on how we need to invest in so-and-so.
At no point does he come out and say it – it’s always implied. This is just one example among so many – it can just be described briefly. There are many other incidents, some of them very cruel, involving other team members smearing me or isolating me.
I tried fixing the relationship - but all conversations end up badly. He takes offense at the slightest thing, and he’s not above telling me I just said something I didn’t say to justify his latest hissy fit.
The problem is not that I don’t realize what’s going on; I do. The problem is that I am almost paralyzed by all this. The quality of my work is deteriorating, my concentration is shot and I can’t even begin to look for another job.
What has worked for you in situations like this? How did you get strong enough to take effective action?
(I am in my mid-50s with a good job, BTW.)
(Yes, I have posted in another board - guess I am crowdsourcing here.)
If this is against the rules, Mod please delete thread.