I am not the Empress of Vaginas, but I do not think fingers are necessary if the mouth is being used properly. If you’d like to, and you’re not super aggressive about it (noticing a theme in this thread, people?), it’s enjoyable either way.
U-spot? Yes.
Breath mints? I don’t want anything minty around my vagina. Ice, yea or nay depending on the mood.
Minty? Why not?
Sugary, now that’s a bad idea.
I don’t have anything to add here. I just felt that this piece of text should be quoted. Maybe twice.
I don’t know. But if minty is anything similar to spicy, it’s bad all around.
Is there an Empress of Vaginas? If so, I’d like to meet her… if only to ask what her job entails.
For me, gentle is the key. Soft soft soft flicks of the tongue from the bottom of the clit up. Occasional forays with the tongue all around the vulva, but mostly clit licking. And then some gentle sucking on it as well. When I really start to get going, my hubby starts the G-spot massage with one finger and then progresses to two. Yowza!
On rare occasions (fresh out of the shower), a little rimming is fun as well. Or one finger in the vagina and one doing some anal teasing. Depends on my mood, though.
From the effects described to me, it’s more of a tingling, cool sensation (heightened by airflow), not dissimilar to its effect on the mucous membranes of the mouth sans flavour. Contemplating the effects of chili oil meanwhile, has recessed my gonads to the stage of early infancy.
I hear your girlfriend couldn’t tell the difference.
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From the male point of view, there are some posts in this thread describing the ideal techniques to be employed for maximum success in the noble art of cunnilingus.
In fact, there are probably more threads on cunnilingus than you can shake a dick at, but this is the one that immediately springs to mind. Others will have their favourite posts, but allow me to take the liberty of quoting bughunter’s post #15 almost in full:
I have to say that bughunter stole my routine in posting this guide, but I was relatively new to the boards at that time, and I was scared of pitting him for sexual plagiarism.
Thumb in her pussy, middle and ring fingers in her ass. You know- like you hold a bowling ball.
Hey, don’t knock it 'til you try it. Feels good on my junk as well. (the ‘minty’, that is. ‘Spicy’ isn’t getting anywhere near my beanbag.)
Ah, got it.
I used to do something similar with someone. Middle finger inside her, ring finger on her clit, right hand on her breasts, mouth anywhere from her neck to her butt. She really liked that.
Ah, yes. And does it work without the wrist splint?
By coincidence, my own wife occasionally enjoys something we call “bowling shoes,” involving two brisk shots from a can of aerosol disinfectant. I’d say most of the time she really hates it, though.
Do you put her back in the little cubby when you’re done?
Only after he nails the 7-10 split.
Yeah, I won’t even describe what that is.
But when it does happen, I bet you get your name engraved on the wall somewhere.
One good rule of thumb, that I haven’t seen yet:
Just because I really like what you’re doing doesn’t mean I want you to do it harder and/or faster.
Took me a long time to learn that one. I mean, I figured it just stood to reason that if some of X was good then more of it must be awesome.
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Yeah, I think a lot of guys are like that. Which is funny, b/c in my experience, the same holds true for guys, most of the time.
A big one is willingness to listen. Not all women like the same things, and just because you’re last girlfriend liked something doesn’t mean I will, too. Trying new things is good, but doing them repeatedly after I’ve jerked away in pain and told you to stop? Bad.
Bolding mine. Exactly right. Many of the suggestions in this thread would make me levitate right out of the bed or service station restroom or whatever and I do not mean in a good way. It would be quite painful and generally unpleasant for me.