I never done it b4, any tips?
Aww, bless!
Be gentle and don’t stop til you’re told to.
Ideally you should ask your girlfriend what she likes, how she likes it done and so on. I wish all women would do this. Saves me the trouble of guessing what she likes and she gets what she likes!
However, that doesn’t always happen or work so the best advice is to pay attention to her reactions to what your doing. Each woman is different and will likely have different preferences. Hard/soft, fast/slow up/down, side-side/circles, etc…keep it changing (at an easy, moderate pace) and make mental notes of the things she seems to respond to best. That said don’t dwell on just one thing because you found she quivered nicely when you did it. Tease her with it, go away from it and come back with hopefully a few things in-between she likes as well.
Don’t forget your hands either. Do something with them. Reaching up and fondling her breasts is not the best move either. Caress her sides, massage her thigh, reach under her fanny to lift her up and into you and your oral ministrations. Stuff like that. Remember you are down there for her benefit…not yours (except inasmuch as you hope for the favor returned 
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As to not stopping till you’re told to that is good advice. However, one GF I had was so fond of oral sex that till I met her I never realized my jaw could actually become tired and sore from exercise like that (never really considered that exercise till then).
Well, shit Whack, I’m a guy, but where do you live? … damn…
Well, she told me that she likes when I…
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Try not to do it the first time on a really full stomach.
Pay attention to her body language and remember to every so often mention how much you enjoy her—this is a very intimate act and letting her know that you like whats happening is a very nice thing to do.
Definitely use the hands. It’s a wonderful experience. I like to start at the breasts, then move my way down slowly, putting myself in a sort of 69ish type position, which is much easier on the neck. Start off gently, teasing the area all around, and don’t get in a hurry. After you get her wet enough, explore with your fingers, and if it’s ready, do some insertion/stimulation while continuing the tongue stroking. Some women (mine) enjoy some anal play at the same time.
Enjoy.
This is without doubt one of the most beautiful and satisfying things you can do for your partner. Well done you for wanting to do it, and for wanting to get it right. Amazingly, there are still some so-called men around who think they are oh-so-magnificent as lovers, yet won’t perform this particular act. Shame on them.
Don’t be intimidated or wary, but do understand that - like most things in life - delivering the right results takes a little time and practice, and you both need to work a little. She needs to let you know what works for her, and what feels good, and you need to develop a good repertoire that she finds satisfying and fulfilling.
Individuality is key. It doesn’t matter what works for anyone else - she has her own responses and preferences, and these are all you need to attend to.
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‘The Joy of Sex’ is a darn good book. Read it on your own or together (together is better) and have the fun of her describing, as best she can, what she would enjoy.
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Never, ever do this if it’s purely in the expectation of something nice in return. That’s part of the fun, for sure, but you’re going to get much better results if it’s something you genuinely and sincerely want to do FOR HER, and purely because you know it can be a wonderful experience for her. And it should be.
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Taking your time is important for BOTH of you. There are too many women around who think they don’t enjoy this, or can’t, and the point is they just don’t give it enough time. Try to create a nice, loving, warm and relaxing atmosphere. When you please your partner in this way, it’s okay to take a long time (I generally suggest 30-40 minutes minimum) during which there is scope for a gentle introduction, a time of getting to know what really works, and then a progressively more focused process which will help her to achieve the climax she wants. But you have to work together on this, and pace is important to you both.
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Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t climax via this particular method of stimulation. Some women do, and some don’t, and it’s for you both to discover and explore and enjoy what works for you. But it should still be, at the very least, a loving and pleasurable act which serves as an expression of something you feel for her and an overture for other things.
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It’s as much about mood as it is about technique. If your heart and attitude is right, then you’ll probably deliver the goods and your lady will have a seriously good time. And trust me, her gratitude will be quite something to enjoy.
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As with all things pertaining to making love, don’t set yourself a crazy and needless deadline or think that you’re starring in a porno flick. It doesn’t have to be amazingly perfect first time and every time. You and your partner are on a wonderful and beautiful shared journey of mutual discovery and exploration, and this is just one aspect of the whole scenario. At the end of the day, you don’t need to worry too much about guessing what she likes and what feels good to her - just ask her, and she’ll tell you!! Sometimes will be better than others… that’s OK, it’s real and it happens. Relax about it. It’s all part of the fun.
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Experimentation is fun, and helps to keep things fresh and exciting. With this particular act, there are several different positions to adopt or try, and you never know what works until you find out! Get creative… one of my female friends came up with a truly imaginative use for a kitchen table that I didn’t think would work at first, but it did, and she had a simply WONDERFUL time! So don’t be afraid to think up variations on a theme, and to actually suggest them (yes, out loud) and see what she thinks!
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Keep it safe, keep it beautiful and keep it an expression of what your heart tells you about her. You won’t go far wrong. Oh, and don’t forget that as well as all the passion and intensity, one of the best ever descriptions of making love is “two adults at play”. Fun and friendship is important, and never more so than when making love. Enjoy!
Yeah. What they said. Pay attention, have fun (it’s contagious in a good way), try things and pay attention to the reactions you get, and talk about it later if you can, once both of you are clothed and more or less rational.
Did I mention having fun?
Don’t sneeze.
While there can be a certain temptation to launch a full assault on the clit, be aware that while some women take to that like … well, almost nothing else, some prefer other things. Figure out what she likes and go from there:)
Tell her how much you like doing it.
Remember, you are not painting a fence.
Somewhere, I heard the suggestion to trace the alphabet. That seemes to work for me. But don’t do it in order. Pick six letters in a row, then go to another part of the alphabet, or use QWERTY as a guide if you know it. Otherwise, she’s going to know.
Be gentle.
Remember, a job not worth doing well is a job not worth doing.
Finally, wipe your mouth discreetly before you kiss her. I kiss the insides of her thigh before going up for a kiss, or casually go chin to my shoulder.
lmao!
Can I spell out “a r e n ’ t y o u d o n e y e t ?”
I don’t know if The Joy of Sex does this, but if you aren’t familiar with female anatomy, you should look at a diagram. Also, it doesn’t have to be full fledge, go for the gusto. Slow and gentle, do different things. Afterwards, ask her what she liked, didn’t like and so forth.
hmmm, punctuation in cunnilingus…I’m afraid she’d crush my head with her thighs during the orgasmic thrashing.
Start very slowly. Do not just start lapping away at the clitoris. Start by softly licking the inner thighs and surrounding area, moving very slowly inward. Your main goal is to build anticipation. Tease a little by moving close to the clitoris and then away – keep this up until you sense you’re starting to drive her crazy, and then do it a little more. When you do start making contact with the clitoris, make it almost accidental – barely brush it with your tongue as you move from one side to the other.
You can now lick the clitoris directly. Start with very light “butterfly” flicks, as well as very slow firmer strokes. Try to be somewhat rhythmic in whatever you do, and watch her reactions to see what she responds to. Side to side can be good, as well as circles around the clitoris, while some people just prefer direct rhythmic licks.
A finger or two inside can be very popular. I highly recommend pressing rhythmically on the g-spot, in sync with your tongue. (To find the g-spot, slip your finger(s) inside, palm facing up, and then curl your fingers toward yourself, in a “come here” gesture.) Again, start slowly, and increase the frequency of your fingers and tongue in response to her – what she seems to be nearing orgasms, don’t go full tilt and hit full speed all of a sudden. Increase your speed (and perhaps the pressure of your tongue and/or fingers) gradually in a smooth build-up. If she has an orgasm, stop licking but maintain constant finger pressure. If she misses it, just slow way down and continue.
As always, every single thing I’ve said varies from woman to woman, so look to her for cues. Encourage her to tell you if something doesn’t feel good, or if there’s something she wants you to do. She may not want to shout out directions during the act, though, so just try to get a sense of how her body is responding and above all don’t get frustrated or impatient. You may be doing a fantastic job and she’s just a slow starter.
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