For the single ones among us

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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In light of all the “what do you like/not like about your SO” threads, this one is for those of us without “someone special”.

What do you not miss about having someone serious(as opposed to the first and second dates that there seem to be so many of lately) in your life?

I’m glad that I don’t have someone who wants me to spend all my free time with them. I’m glad there’s not someone pushing me for more of a commitment than I want to give. I like being able to do what I will, when I will and not listen to someone else complain that they wanted to do something else.

I don’t miss the ex leaving the top off the toothpaste or the toilet seat up. I don’t miss him running up $600 phone bills making calls to his friends from my phone(the jerk).*

For what it’s worth, I’m happy with my life. I do miss having someone to keep the bed warm, and if the right person came along I wouldn’t be opposed to a relationship. But I’m not really looking either.

*[sup]I do miss guy hugs. I miss them a lot. Anyone want to volunteer to be my designated hugger?[/sup]

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It’s been so freaking long I don’t remember anymore. :frowning:

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That over the shoulder hug from behind, you know the one? That’s really nice, I need that again.

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Yeah, what’s a “date” again?

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no one interupts you at the best part of the book.
no one complains: " no, not the ballet again!"

totoro, you may have a point there. that hug is especially effective during dishwashing and cooking.

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From Raiders of the Lost Ark:

“See? It’s a date. Ya eat 'em!”

I really miss the expensive phone bills.

Tripler
One date? Feh. I’ve got a whole WEEK!

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I like having the freedom, if I choose, to go for days without getting out of my jammies, sitting on the sofa with the remote control or on my reading chair with a stack of novels, eating ravioli out of the pan.

I like that I feel free to go out wherever I feel like going, without waiting to be escorted.

I like that there’s no one else involved with the decisions about how to spend money.

I like that the toilet seat is ALWAYS down.

I like that the remote is always mine.

I like that I almost never fight with anyone.

And I won’t get married until I meet someone whose company is actually better than having the apartment to myself.

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I’ ve always really enjoyed sleeping with someone, not sex, just sleep, so peaceful, sigh

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Sure, I’ll admit there are times when I miss you
Especially like now when I need someone to hold me.
But there are somethings that can never be forgiven
And I’ve just got to tell you
That I kind of like these extra few feet in my bed.
– Cowboy Junkies, “Sun Comes Up, It’s Tuesday Morning”

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I’m tired of driving everywhere. I’d like to have someone to drive from time to time.
I would say that I miss intellectually stimulating conversations, but that’s just not the truth. I never had them with any of my ex-boyfriends. I have friends online for that, and God willing one day I’ll meet a man I am compatible with, AND can verbally spar with on my level (I’m not tooting my own horn here. Pretty and dumb is not what I want in a man.)

I don’t miss someone telling me what to do
I don’t miss having to provide sex on demand
I don’t miss putting up with my psycho ex MIL and SIL
I don’t miss being belittled in front of his friends because it’s macho
I don’t miss being the beer-fetcher
I still do all of the housework, but now it’s just my son and I, and we’re nowhere near as messy as three. And my son doesn’t fart under the covers in my bed and then wave the blankets at me.

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FisherQueen…are you sure you’re not me?? I’ve tried to explain this concept to some people I work with, and they all think that I’m just saying that I like being alone in an attempt to try to rationalize the fact that I am alone. I’d rather be in my own company than in that of 99.9% of the general population, and I don’t feel obligated to surround myself with anyone who doesn’t meet my exacting “good company” standards just for the sake of having someone around. I’m my own best friend…and I can be someone else’s, if I decide they’re worth my time. Otherwise, leave me with my books, computer and DVD/surround sound system and I’m happy as a clam. :smiley:

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I volunteer! Is there a lengthy approval process? Will I need two forms of identification?

One reason I’m glad I’m single is that I don’t have to put up with some girl who has an ego the size of Texas.

One reason I’m not glad I’m single is that I LOVE getting hugs from girls. Heck, guy hugs are pretty good too, but my friends wouldn’t go for that.

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More to the point, how do you get one?

I assume it has something to do with talking to women/girls/whatever-you-like, but I never actually tried that.

Seems like too much of a hassle.

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Me me me me me! And I won’t even cop a feel (unless you want me to) or expect anything along with it. I get by just fine on hugs, actually.

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Now there’s a dream job. I truly miss the girl hugs, especially the ones that would last for days at a time if it wasn’t for those pesky bodily needs. Sign me up.

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I don’t miss her being a slob–I am NOT a neat-freak, but she often made me look like Felix Unger. I don’t miss the fact that in the arguments I was always wrong–even when I was right, I was wrong. I don’t miss the coldness of the last couple years of the marriage. I don’t miss her proclaiming that we needed counselling while at the same time she was off screwing her boyfriend. I don’t miss the fact that she was so intellectually dishonest that she maneuvered me into saying the D-word first so she could feel like I was the one who bailed. And I don’t miss the fact that I was such a pathetic piece of shit that I spent half a year in denial before I pulled the plug all the way.

I do miss sex, though not enough that I’ve been moved to go out and try to find some. I do miss having someone to talk to sometimes. I do miss my ability to trust other people, which I have little of anymore. I miss not feeling permanently alone in the world. Most of all, I do miss my best friend–she went away at some point and left a stranger who looked like her in her place.

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hugs Lsura, but craftily makes no long-term “designated hugger” commitment, heh heh

Putting up with her friends.
No jealousy.
Never have to be seen buying tampons.
Saving money.
Eating junk food.
Never having to watch chick flicks or listen to wussy music.
Never having these things dismissed as insignificant.

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not having to be jealous

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I don’t miss the “Am I fat/ugly/prettier than her?” questions.
I don’t miss having to stop at every yard sale we pass no matter where we’re going or what our time limits are.
I don’t miss 1001 health&beauty products cluttering up the bathroom.
I don’t miss spending time doing things I don’t like with people I don’t like.
I don’t miss erratic mood swings.
I do miss hugs, snuggling in bed, intimate conversations, laughing at private jokes, cooking for someone who appreciates it, and doing the wild thing.
Oh, and kissing…damn, how I miss kissing.

Peace,
TN*hippie

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Having never actually had a ‘significant other’, I can’t really say that I miss anything by not having one.

I do, however enjoy having my privacy, being able to do as I like (even if it’s nothing at all).

And, for the record, even though I’m a guy, my toilet seat is ALWAYS down, too.

I also give the best hugs…I can even provide references :smiley: