By “relationships,” I mean the ones that last, or at least quasi-last. I mean things that are rather spouse-like, whether legally or religiously married or not. And fulfilling, and motivating, and kind of exciting. As opposed to boyfriendships/girlfriendships, one night stands, living together to work the farm, or whatever it is Hollywood actors do.
And of course I mean gay as well as straight relationships.
You meet someone, and you fall in love–not necessarily “at first sight,” but soon enough. At some point you’re a couple. Maybe this feeling of “romantic” love continues–not that it is continuously felt, but that now and then it flares up. Yes, it’s infatuation; yes, it’s “sexual.” It’s not just a fond regard and an enduring affection. (Not “just”!)
I have heard that the best, most enduring, “warmest” relationships may never involve this sort of romantic feeling. That may be a good thing; I suspect only a minority finds romantic love that’s returned in kind. Some people may never experience it at all.
So what’s the verdict? Does a relationship that starts with romantic love die when it grows cooler? Or not?
Yes, I know that “everyone’s different.” I’m seeking the truest generalization. And Happy Valentine’s Day.