We had our 20 year high school reunion last year. I didn’t attend, but it did give me the idea of Googling some friends. In the process of looking people up, I found a friend lives about 15 minutes from where I work. He had told me, way back when, that post-high school, he had no intention of keeping in touch with people from high school.
I’ve been trying to decide whether to send him a letter (snail mail - I can’t find an email address, but he has his own web site)
The letter would basically say what I said above, and indicate that if he has any desire to say “Hello”, I’ve included my contact information, and if not, please excuse the intrusion.
What say ye, friends? Should I send the letter or just leave it be?
I had an operation last Thursday. One of the admitting nurses was friends with one of my college roommates. As it turned out, my roommate also worked at the hospital. He stopped to visit me in my room after the operation. We hadn’t seen each other in 20 years. I really enjoyed the visit.
His contact information including email can be found by entering his web page information at Register.com or other such site. I think snail mail might be odd, but a quick email is less personal and easier.
I’m a big advocate of staying in touch with people. Use the link NurseCarmen provided and see if you can get his email. A friendly hello shouldn’t bother anybody. Whether you actually get together and become buds can be determined later.
I am sure there are lots of 18 year olds who think that they are so cool that they won’t care about their pasts and a lot of 38 year olds who regret that way of thinking. Then there are 38 year olds who don’t develop and grow over the past 20 years. A very casual and generic e-mail is fine is worth a try. All the friend has to do is not reply if he’s not interested.
This description doesn’t compute for me… If he was your friend, why did he cut off contact with you after high school? Did you have a falling out?
I have some old friends who I’ve just sort of gradually drifted away from and lost contact with; it would be cool to hear from them again if they happened upon my info. But if he specifically told you he didn’t want to keep in touch… I don’t know, it just seems like there’s more to the story that’s not in your post.
I would recommend not using an email unless you’re sure he checks it regularly (which might not be the case for one he used to sign up for his site).
If I were you, I’d definitely send a letter or something. Nothing to lose, and possibly a lot to gain. The odds are that he’d enjoy hearing from you.
Sounded to me like a general “so long suckas!” than a specific “don’t ever call me”.
I say go ahead and call. I, for one, an terrible about correspondence. If a person is not in my circle of people I do stuff with regularly, I generally lose touch with them.
I had no idea this could be done! Thank you. Learn something new every day. I would prefer to send an email.
As for the wish to never see people from high school again, we weren’t exactly in the popular crowd. I believe it was said mainly to indicated that he had no interest in things like reunions and such. I’m not sure if it applied to me or not which is the reason for my hesitation. We were good friends at one time, but like someone else said, floated apart.
My hesitancy comes from not wanting to ‘disturb’ his life.
I had a guy from college contact me a while back. He was a jerk in college and apparently was still a jerk because he wanted to dump his wife and 2 year old toddler to go out with me. We’d been friends (and this time I use the term loosely) in college and he said he’d been in love with me that whole time and still was. Then add in the fact that he called me drunk to tell me this… :rolleyes:
Well, I promised an update if there was one, so here it is!
Got an email back today saying he’d been wondering about what I was up to about 2 days ago. We’ve exchanged a couple of emails and alls well that ends well.
