Me too. I kept trying to imagine myself having that conversation with my dad. I don’t think my parents would be friends with a 22 year old, though. And even if they were and someone did say that, I really doubt my father would go out of his way to tell me. Especially if I were sixteen at the time…
So Claude, this guy, is he your friend, or maybe your connection? I can not imagine any man actually keeping a friend around for you know, shits and giggles, who did that. There has to be more to this story. Normal forty year old men don’t just hang out with twenty two year olds.
Connection was my first thought as well.
Holy hell people, this is my second day here and I’m disgusted, disturbed, afraid, indignant, and I want to punch somebody all over one thread. Go easy eh?
Even knowing Claudes chickens (or chicken hawks) are coming home to roost I still want to warn him not to take threats to his daughter lightly and to pick better company for her sake. Nothing, not your life or anyone elses, is as important as your children. A father is the bulwark of protection against the world. Take that seriously and if neccessary impart that wisdom however pointedly need be against any who make the mistake of thinking you don’t. I have never found it difficult to explain the utter woe which will befall any who mistake that.
Connection? Connection to what?
Drugs.
ok, let me get this all straight. your 22 year old best friend says he wants to fuck your daughter, and your response is to tell her about it? are you going to pass her a note in study hall that says “do you like [friend], check yes or no”? he then threatens her with physical violence, simply for knowing about his comments, and your solution is to ask the internet?
and it gets better, he’s apparently made such threats to other girls before, but it’s only now that it’s directed at your kid that the behavior is even a blip on your radar. ever hear of something called a pattern of behavior? it was only a matter of time before he targeted your daughter.
there’s a difference between beating the guy to a pulp, possibly winding up in jail, than in, say, letting him know in no uncertain terms to stay the fucking hell away from your kid.
i also wonder why(as many others have pointed out) when you’re old enough to have a 16 year old daughter, you have a 22 year old best friend. and why you call the situation “bittersweet”, which usually implies there’s a little bit of good in a sad situation. i don’t really see what the good part of this could be.
to sum up: the fuck?
and actually, lorene’s link makes it a lot clearer, but i’m curious if you have any answers to these questions.
Dude, I am 49 and I have friends of all ages, what is the big whoop - it isnt sexual. My husband and I spent a fun vacation with a 20 year old romanian gaming buddy of ours and had a blast, and there was absolutely nothing sexual going on at all.
Are you some sort of idiot that thinks that people can’t be friends without some sort of sexual tension involved? I mean, hell Jin is not only young enough to be my son, his Mom is my age. I have friends of my parent’s age, in their 70s and 80s. Is that wrong also? I have friends of all sexes - male - female, gay - straight, bi.
People make friends for all sorts of reasons. Perhaps the OP actually worked with the idiot and made friends that way. I made friends with a 19 year old working at my last job, she is into scrapbooking and I had some old magazines that I gave her to cut up and do crap with. I suppose that is sick … me being 49 and 30 years older than she is … but she is one of the few people I remained in contact with after I left. I also remain in contact with a couple of 30 somethings from the same employer … so I am 19ish years older than they are :rolleyes:
Why on earth are you taking this personally? He’s simply pointing out that hanging out with a 22-year-old drinking buddy isn’t a great choice for a (single) father of a 16-year-old teen. Apparently their common interests aren’t in the best interests of the daughter.
This. I also didn’t get that they were talking about the 22 year old friend trying to fuck the 40 year old father, but that it’s really not all that shocking that the 22 year old might make a pass at the person who is just a few years younger than them.
But is she your “best” friend? And more importantly, is she an asshole? Because the former would just be a little weird, whereas the latter would be stupid.
I read this as: Why is your “best friend” a 22 year old, asshole?
I am in love with **Ludovic **now. Thank you for this.
Is anyone else confused regarding the series of events? Who said what to whom in what order? The OP isn’t making any sense to me.
And has everything just been talk or has anyone actually done anything or made any credible threats against anyone?
CR has best friend, who is 22. They have been friends for 3 years.
CR has daughter who is now 16.
BF has told CR that he wants to have sex with CR’s daughter.
CR does not end friendship.
CR tells daughter.
Daughter does not appreciate this.
CR does not end friendship.
Daughter tells CR that she was going to confront BF.
CR tells BF that he has told his daughter about BF’s wish to sex her up.
CR tells BF that daughter was going to confront him.
BF threatens to knock daughter’s block off.
CR remembers that BF has said this before, about other girls.
CR ends friendship.
I think
It sounds like everyone in this story is about 9 years old.
I think I saw a similar situation on Jerry Springer, or maybe Maury Povich. (So it may have involved a babymomma rather than a daughter.) The insultee made an attempt to brain the insulter with a chair, followed later by a pious sermon about ‘getting along’, by the host.
I’m not the OP but sometimes our interests and activities make our circle of friends very mixed in terms of generation. When I was 16 a lot of my close friends were anywhere from 20-70 years old. I worked at a Harley shop and did a lot of touring - something the people my age just weren’t interested in. I’ve seen the same thing at sportsmens clubs and firehalls as well as some “traditional music forms” (such as polka and bluegrass).
Well, common interests (like, say… underage girls) can really bring people together.
And nothing says togetherness like a punch in the face.
Anybody else got the “That’s My Bush” catch phrase in their heads now? You know, “Laura, one of these days, I’m gonna punch you in the face!”?
Dump the friend. Apologize to your daughter. It does appear you’ve raised a girl who can stand up for herself and that’s pretty rare, but she needs to know you’re on her side, not this asshole’s. Be open to making friends with whoever, whenever, but don’t agree to tolerate whatever. A friend doesn’t treat your daughter inappropriately in word or deed. Cut this loser loose.
Enjoy,
Steven