No shit.
do something about it, eh? like kill himself?
Lucki, I know this doesn’t help, but I feel your pain. I’ve muttered almost every word you’ve written at some point. What is there to say? It’s all so recursive.
I still haven’t found anything that helps me. I try to get out as much as I can- even if I am crying or sleepwalking, and that kind of helps. I’m just biding time until I can find something that can help me, because I know the real me is in there somewhere.
And the real you is still in there somewhere, too. And your only job right now is to stay alive until that real you figures out how to get out. Don’t worry. He’ll make it. Just hold on and wait and figure that things will get magically better. It will. It has to. It doesn’t have to be now, but it will be soon, okay?
okay? god what a world that lets people feel like this! Lucki, from one broken soul to another, I love you. Stick around. Theres got to be something in this world for people like us.
Q.E.D. (and keturah too), your response was very inappropriate. Lucki has been diagnosed with depression, which is a disease. It’s even a leading cause of death. Would you tell someone with cancer to stop whining and just get better?
Everything is a leading cause of death when it suits the arguement. :rolleyes:
Why do you have a problem with that? Suicide is the third leading cause of death of youth 15-24 and the eleventh overall in the United States. cite
I haven’t looked up the stats of exactly how many of those are caused by depression, but that webpage states that “The strongest risk factors for attempted suicide in youth are depression, alcohol or other drug use disorder, and aggressive or disruptive behaviors.”
Lucki should be taken seriously. Only an asshole would treat someone in his condition like shit.
Often, when you’re right at the bottom of the dark pit, climbing seems like a futile and unpleasant thing to do, but climb you must; it’s a vicious circle - depression makes people socially undesirable, being socially undesirable makes people depressed. Breaking the cycle is really hard and for a long time it may look like all your effort is taking you nowhere.
I realise how glib this all sounds, but I have been somewhere very much like where you are now; people tried to help, in their way but it was hard for them to keep it up, particularly as I was ungrateful for their efforts (I hated the way that it all seemed so simple to them, in their positions of comfort).
For me, it was mostly a case of generating a feeling of self-worth - finding something to be happy about, however small, finding something to enjoy and taking pleasure in it.
…ramble, ramble…blah blah; Anyway, Lucki; I’m really sorry to hear that you are so low and I hope things change for the better really soon; be nice to yourself.
Lucki,
I hope you have a better day today. Believe that the best thing for you has not happened just yet. Things will get better and you will feel better… hopefully soon.
I will have a good thought for you today. I will be checking this thread to see how you are. Let us hear from you soon. Please.
Above all, remember to have faith in yourself. There is something you are here for. You have a mission that only you can complete. This is easy to forget during the hard times. Remember the things that are easily forgotten and forget the things that are easily remembered. It’s crazy but true.
Thinking of you,
pam
No, you idiot.
Hey Luki - I was about to write a post like yours and I could take yours word for word.
You are not alone…
Ya see, what Q.E.D is failing to recognize is that there is sadness on many different levels. When Q.E.D is out of work, life sucks, but he can get another job (Yeah the market may suck, but when it comes down to it, if you want to eat, you will). When you lose a loved one, life sucks for awhile, but things almost always pick up. Things like these usually warrant a “pick your self up and quit whining” rhetoric.
Not everyone has a strong circle of friends. Not everyone has a SO. Not everyone had or has a strong nuclear family structure. It’s just not that easy to say find new friends. It’s just not that easy to say, “how do you know she won’t like you, you don’t even talk to her”, really? “what do I say without sounding corny?”.
EVERYONE has been rejected in one way another over something. But a significant amount of people are rejected by everybody everyday. Rich or poor, humans need a certain amount of love and affection, and if they never get it, they get depressed, angry, AND both.
I’m a little known middle-aged female lurker/doper who has survived her fair share of life’s bullshit ** Lucki** and I seem to recall that you’re in the Austin area.
If buying you a bang-up lunch and listening to you would help-well, I’m in Austin once a week and I’d be happy to oblige.
Evidently someone has given Lucki Chaarms the ability to go back in time and emulate me.
Who knew? Not me, that’s for sure.
What I do know, however, is that things are much better now. Life presents opportunities in very strange ways.
Lucki, I sincerely hope that things get better for you. I honestly don’t know what to suggest, other than look for something that makes you smile, then follow that for awhile.
I was going to retort that my vagina’s not big enough to fuck everything, but now it just doesn’t seem appropriate anymore.
I get depressed too, Lucki. Just know that the dark cloud hanging over your head will eventually pass. Take care.
Checking in to let everyone know that I’m physically OK, and not to worry on that front (as I said, I’m not strong enough to kill myself even if I was proud enough to think it woul be a worthwhile idea), and also to reiterate everything that I said and then some.
Thanks for the kind words, everyone who left them, and to Q.E.D.: You’re not bitching? Really? It seems like you’re not only bitching about your situation (which does genuinely suck), but your taking it out on me, when I’ve got my own shit to deal with. Don’t be so fucking self-righteous, you fucking caricature of strength. Yeah, you’re such a fucking man that you deal with your problems by preterition and viciousness. Good fucking job.
By not killing yourself, you’re showing more strength than you think. Suicide is never a worthwhile idea.
Be nice to yourself, like Mangetout said. Listen to those people who’ve been through depression. Talk to those friends that you can trust, such as people like matt_mcl.
Me, too.
What Zoe said. There is no single thing that is going to change your attitude. SSRIs can be very helpful, as well as a good therapist that doesn’t share your confidences with your parents. As far as the “side-effects”, different drugs have different degress of the effects. I don’t think the potential “side-effects” would be as debilitating as the depression your are mired in. Do yourself a favor, and go back to your doctor and share with him your pain and your problems. He/She should be able to help you get started. Stick with it. If you are at the bottom, the only way left is up. Good luck, and keep your friends here informed.
Perhaps you should spend more time looking for a job then posting to a message board. I feel bad for Lucki, but not for you.
:wally
Lucki, can I ask if you’re still sober? I only ask 'cuz I would hate to think what a few hits would do to your already large problems.
You don’t know me from anybody, but I have been where you are. It was all I could do to just not hurt myself and slog through another day. It hurt but I did it. You can too.
I’ll be thinking about ya.