Hey WorldEater, I’m a young single guy in NYC, too. Let’s grab some beers and bitch.
At least I’ve got enough sense to recognize a misogynistic heap of talking dung when I see it. You can learn if you try. >hands WO a mirror<
You appear to be a truly disgusting and vile troll and a hater of women. That much is clear. I realized that by your second post. I guess it takes your would-be female companions just a litle longer to realize that in person. Did you ever stop to think there is a reason you are alone and unloved. Look within.
You are a sad, pathetic and noxious presence. To be pitied, shunned and ignored. You can spew your filth in someone else’s direction as I will not respond to any more of your posts. Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to scour my eyes.
DNFTT
Sure, but only if we bitch about mermaid 
Well toots you can think whatever you want, whatever floats your boat. As far as me hating women, that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve been in 3 major relationships in the past 11 years, 4 year, 3 year and 3 year, and this is in Nyc where people trade each other like pelts. So I doubt that would have stayed with a misogynist for so long. In fact most of my relationships usually end because I’m too nice, and the stability usually freaks them out. As far as being alone and unloved, I don’t need a SO in my life. I see a relationship as the icing on the cake, and can appreciate being with someone, or being single and independent. As for you, I’m way to hungover to think of an appropriate response to you cute lil “sad, pathetic, blah blah” diatribe, and seeing that you wont respond anyway, I will save my breath. Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to go slit my wrists because you don’t like me. :rolleyes:
Nah, I like Mermaid, even if she is coming down hard on our ass. 
World Eater
Some of what you are saying sounds like the kind of thing my ex-husband used to say. I could be wildly off the mark here, but I doubt that it was stability that drove your girl friends away. Might it be that they found the relationship to be spiritually and emotionally draining, rather than enriching? Could it be that you seemed to need more ego support from them than any human could ever give to you? If you are sure that is not the case, then please ignore what I have said, but if you hear echoes in it of what they may have said to you, I urge you to think about it, and maybe find a good friend and talk to them about it.Maybe Maeglin could help you out there
I guess maybe swearing at Mermaid made you feel better for a while, so I wouldn’t be surprised if you started swearing at me also, but I hope you will also think about what I’ve said.
To the OP:
I wish that hadn’t happened to you. 
Not much else I can say but that.
And World Eater, I think very similar things when I’m in a bad mood (like right now), but they generally pass quickly. I hope you’re just in a funk you’ll get out of soon. It’s no good to dwell in those thoughts.
No I’m not going to jump down your throat, because you thoughtfully laid out your suggestions. I’ll tell you what the problem is, I need to stop dating college girls. I’m 28 and my last girlie was 23. There’s certainly a world of difference bigger then 5 years between those ages. I don’t really blame them too much, because I don’t think they are aware of the scope of a relationship at that age. (to be pc, nobody does). The funny thing is usually the reasons for breaking up are almost identical, because they’re all 23! In my relationships I’ve done bad things, and so has the girl, and in those cases when its not my fault I reserve the right to call her a “soulplague bearer” and such. Anywho, I apologize to CRorex for the hijack of the thread, after all it wasn’t titled “An ethics lesson for World Eater”.
Maeglin let me know about that beer.
Hoo boy, that is definitely a problem, especially college girls in NYC. I’m pushing 24, and if they’re still in school, fuhgetaboutit. Been down that road once, not going down again.
Sometime later this weekend, maybe? You live in Manhattan?
Nope no dwelling, just getting it all out in one vitriolic stream and going back to my beer. 
Yeah you know the college girl thing can drive one nuts.
Next week would be good, I’m gonna be getting ink all weekend, so I’ll be out of commission. Live Brooklyn, Work
Lower Manhattan.
My last break-up was terrible. The guy had been my friend for four years before we started dating, and it lasted two years.
He was always asking “Why won’t you let me get close to you?” all the while he was pushing me away. It was more draining and stressful than even growing up with a controlling, alchoholic stepfather was. Of course, I didn’t see that at the time, it was only afterward.
CRorex, I’m sorry for your loss. Not the loss of your ex, rather the loss of hope that you’re feeling right now. It’s hard, and it sucks a lot.
Thanks for your sympathetic words.
It was simply the most unexpected thing that I could have imagined comming from her.
What gets me, is I do try to pick em carefully. I never date anyone that I don’t get to know first. Each of the women I’ve dated I’ve gotten to know and all were kind, funny, and I never expected that they would end up doing something like this.
Mermaid, sorry I ripped your headoff and then played hockey with it. I just fielded a nasty call about my ex from someone who had no right to bitch to me about how it was my fault. Please accept my apologies.
This may seem cold, but I’ve pretty much bounced back. I just simply don’t have the personality that will accept any sort of defeat and I refuse to let someone beat me, especially after they hurt me. You can put me down but don’t be suprised when you see my clawing my way back out of my grave.
Although to throw in my two cents about the age difference and dating… I try to only date people within a year or two of where I am in my life.
What the fuck is it with nice seeming women to ditch nice people (I’d like to think I’m reasonably well adjusted to living in society, no freaky habits and hope to hell I treat all of the peopel I care about as compassionatly as I want them to treat me)and then hook up with scum. I’m talking heavilly drug dependent, drug dealers, abusive or just simply scum (for the lack of a better word).
CRorex
Apology accepted. Now perhaps you could ask a mod to lock off this runaway train wreck of a thread. It has veered too far your original course to ever be redeemed.
Peace
Mermaid
I’m pretty sure that you only said the above because you are very down at the moment,** World Eater** because underneath all that hurt, you appear to be a nice guy.
I’m also pretty sure that you realise the untruth. I have never screwed a guy over, and I know plenty of others who haven’t either. “Us women” are all different.
I’m sure you also realise that men behave badly too, and this behaviour is not something you can blame on only women.
Because I’m pretty sure that you realise the above, I’m not going to flame you out, call you a generalising piece of shit or give you more things to be pissed off about. I am going to hope that one day, a really nice person that suits you perfectly will come into your life, and that you also won’t miss out on this person, because you have too many hang-ups from previous relationships.
World Eater, lots of good wishes and (platonic) hugs from me… hope things start looking up:)
[sub] Oh, and if you are a women-hater, and don’t realise the falsehood in the above quote, let me know so I can call you all sorts of names and take my compassion back 
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Wow can tstyully type my name and pssrdddwdrdo word in.
grr too hard to fucus… focus and stylly maix mix last drink (can’t leave bottles with 1s ot left in em can I? it would be roused rusde rude)
What?
Oh yeah,
origional purpose behind post.
I just needed a way tog fevet vent feelings. No friends around, everyone as on vacation. Parnts fucknin jokeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. damned hippies
purpose of post was to allwos aothers to also vent similarities, sympathy be daned. don’t need sympathy to help in healing prsses just need to get feelins away gfrom mind and out into the open… best waygv for my is to type… easitrer to belives written crap than inner dialouge with self… wihch in and of itselves is pretty fuckedup, if you can’t trust the voivces in yer head who can ya trsut.
I appreciate the kind words. Sometimes we get frustrated and have to do some blanket complaining. I have female friends who have some pretty crazy stories as well, so I am well aware that it can go both ways.
CRorex dont drink and type
Somewhere out there is a 35 page email I typed while drunk off my ass answering a question someone asked me about what time I’d be getting done with classes on monday (so we could up and do some shopping).
Its 35 pages of the most random incoherent stuff. I was physically incapable to reading the screen and I thought all I typed was 12:45. My friends are getting good laughs even 4 years later
OK, this phrase chills me to my very soul every time I hear it. It’s the phrase that psycho-serial-stalkers utter before they do something heinous.
Listen, there are some nasty bitches out there. There’s more than a few evil dudes out there too. But if every woman you meet seems this way to you, maybe there’s something wrong with you.
See, thats what I don’t understand… That they were all like that!? I mean what the hell, they all seemed normal and didn’t possess any major psychological dysfunctions. And its not like I picked any of them up in bars, they were all people I met then got to know as friends then started dating.
What I don’t get is you do you sperate out the psychotic ones from the normal ones?
Or should I run the first time they act strange
If you are always treated this same way it’s probably because you look to be treated this way. Either that or the sample here is pretty small and well within the realmo of probability. How many women have you had relationships with?
First off, all women act strange.
The way you attract emotionally healthy women is by being an emotionally healthy man. You realize that no one is perfect, and you’re OK by yourself. You know that no one can fix you. And you cannot fix them!
Please, for the love of God, never utter these words, or words to that effect, to a woman. They scream neediness and will repel healthy women. For the ‘bitches’, it’ll be like blood in the water, like a ball of yarn to cat. You may as well ask to be hurt.
You must let any partner know, in no uncertain terms, that you will not put up with bullshit. The way you do that is easy. When you see the bullshit, tell them to get lost. If a woman doesn’t return your calls, move on. Take the hint. Don’t stalk her asking for a ‘reason’. Just move on and find another woman.
Keep your eyes open to the good, and the bad. If she stands you up, or plays you off another guy, or uses you for a crying towel, or a meal ticket, move on. You gotta stand up say ‘That’s not what I’m looking for, so goodbye’. Period. And mean it. Take it at face value that this is the way they are, and DO NOT expect them to change.
Listen to me now, it’ll save you grief later.