My rage burns with the fire of a thousand suns...or open letter to a bitch.

The BBQ Pit
1

Backstory in MPSIMS, suffice it to say I recently found out one of my best friends has been putting the moves on Marc LESS THAN A WEEK after we broke up.

You fucking cunt. I TRUSTED you. Not only did you violate my privacy by using my password on this board, but I have to hear these FUCKING stories about him climbing on top of you. Hear all of it. You are a fucking coward. You know you are the lowest form of scum on the face of the earth. That’s why you hang up on me when I call. You never deserved my friendship. You never deserve another friendship as long as you live. Karma’s a bitch, and you’ll get yours. All that emotional abuse Marc heaped on me? You’ll get it twice as much as I did. Why? Let’s take a look at all the names he has called you since he knew you.

  1. Cow

  2. Made jokes about you digging your dead baby up and pretending he was alive.

  3. Oh, CONSTANT dead baby jokes.

  4. When I told him about your blood pressure problems, he replied, “That’s because she bathes in gravy”

  5. Made constant disparaging remarks about your weight and eating habits. Wanted to know why you always wanted to “gorge yourself”

  6. Said you were loud, annoying, and that he often had to “restrain himself” from “chewing her out”.

In short everything that Marc used critisize me about, you are the LIVING EPITOME of. He will heap and heap his disgust and anger on you until you have no self-esteem left. Less than a year ago, he WATCHED you cheat on Justin. If you think that he will never use that against you, you are more fucking stupid than I thought. Enjoy your therapy, bitch. I’m enjoying the hell out of mine. :mad:

2

Mmm … one hundred suns maximum.

3

Why did you write this? For us to read, catharsis or because you know for a fact that your ex-friend will read this and you want to hurt her back? I’m guessing the third. Let it go.

Haj

4

Ok, Ok, How bout this?
You goddammed, goatfelching, illiterate, stupid, fat, selfish, greedy cunt!

Better?

5

A combination of all three.
I have not been able to stop shaking or crying since I found out. This type of large scale betrayal is not something you just “let go”. I need my closure and catharsis.

6

Is this the one who beat the fuck out of the boyfriend in question?

Maybe you’d better look to your own issues before pitting a fellow dysfunctional.

Eh–?

7

You are right about me having issues of my own. However, why does that mean that I can’t be angry about this?

8

This is the bitch who logged onto the SDMB, & posted trash about you?

Give her phone # , & physical & e-maqil addys to Operation Rescue, & tell them all about her “plans for an abortion”.

Then, go rest.

9

Yeah, it does. If you hate/love someone enough to beat him up, just let him go. Really. You have hate issues. I’m not perfect, nobody’s perfect, but you posted this in the pit, and this is my response.

Drop the anger to Marc, drop the anger toward this gal–just let it go. Look a little more at yourself and try to put some of the pieces back in place. It’s just common-sense advice.

I really do wish you luck. You seem to have the energy to solve your problems. Just channel it better.

10

Thank you. I am trying to drop the anger. I was doing very well, then this. :frowning:
On the up side, I am supposed to hear back about a job I am pretty optimistic about getting. :slight_smile:

11

Yup, same girl.

12

It sounds like

  1. you can’t stand this woman, and

  2. Marc is going to treat her rotten.

what’s the problem?

(btw, that taking a bath in gravy thing sounds nice. especially with a woman. . .and a turkey.)

13

Good going. Focus on that. And if you don’t get it, don’t let that get you down. Most things in life just don’t work out. That’s a fact.

Just keep producing and receiving good karma, and you’ll be fine.

14

That depends… is the turkey still alive, or not?

15

torie, I wish you the best in whatever you hope to accomplish.

That being said, please allow me to use your thread to ask…What the Hell is with the Jealous Ex-Girlfriend bit? And I don’t mean you specifically, but rather women in general.
Why should exboyfriends be off limits to friends? Let’s say I break up with Bob. I no longer want to be with Bob in a romantic way, and while I may have some residual anger regarding how the breakup occurred, it’s only rational to expect that Bob will eventually date and/or fuck again.
At that point, why is it any of my damn business who he chooses to get horizontal with?

In torie’s situation there’s the matter of the nastiness that said friend probably knew about, so I can *almost * see why that would be upsetting. But in general? So your friend slurps up some of your sloppy seconds. Why is that a big deal?

I just don’t get it.

16

That job I was so optimistic about getting? I didn’t get it.

:frowning:

I don’t know how much more dissapointment, betrayal, and chaos I can take. I want a stable, happy life again.

Back to the drawing board…

17

There’s a certain appeal to both.

18

Aeschines: It’s pretty easy for those of us who are not torie to just say “let it go.” Looking in from the outside, and with the benefit of a few more years of experience, I can say with confidence that the best thing for torie to do is to just move on, find some new friends, forget about it. (While dealing with her particular issues with a counselor of course.)

But to the person in the situation? Especially a person as young as Torie? She can’t just let it go. It’s an ugly and hurtful situation, and involves her feeling quite betrayed.

Besides, she has to come to terms with the fact that she spent a huge amount of time and energy on these people–people who clearly aren’t worth it. Someday she’ll look back on this and think of it as a valuable learning experience. But for now, she’s dealing with a lot of anger–at Marc, at the ex-friend, and at herself. And she has a right to be angry with all three.

She’s taking advantage of the anger and hurt to work towards positive change in herself, which in the end will serve her better than just “letting it go.”

Of course, her major goal should be, and probably is, to move on, to find some new friends, and to leave this mess behind her. But that doesn’t happen overnight. Give her some time.

And in the meantime…

Torie–Just remember that we on the board are here for you, even those of us who disliked your original MPSIMS thread about the breakup. As much as I abhorred your hitting your boyfriend, I respected that you immediately went and got help. I also respect your willingness to examine your own behaviors and motivations and work towards self-improvement. I predict that you’ll come out of this strong and healthy. Vent all you want. That’s what we’re here for.

Besides that FUCKING SHITSTAIN BITCH hijacked your Dope account! Not acceptable! Nuh uh. No way. No how.

She’s a complete idiot anyway. Never mind her utter disregard for the English language–the fact that she moved in on a guy just days after his messy breakup with his live-in girlfriend shows that she has no judgement or common sense at all.

I see belladonna’s post on preview–While I agree with you about the “jealous ex-girlfriend” thing in general, I definitely understand why Torie’s upset. First of all, it’s so soon after the breakup. She hasn’t quite mentally detatched herself from the fact that they were boyfriend/girlfriend. She may understand intellectually that it’s not cheating, but emotionally, it’s gotta still hurt.

Secondly, she’ is probably feeling like her friend didn’t respect her experiences as valid. Let me try to explain. I only ever dated one guy who was emotionally abusive. I only went out with him for a few months, but even in that short time, he did a number on me. Shortly after I broke up with him, a friend of mine started seeing him. She wasn’t a close friend, but I was pretty friendly with her, and she knew about my experience with this guy. I was upset when she started dating him because she knew what he had done to me. How could she think that it wouldn’t happen with her? Did she think it was my fault? Did she think that I provoked the abuse, and that he wouldn’t do it to her because she thought she was better/nicer/more valuable than me? Did she think I was lying about the way he treated me? Of course, none of these things were true and I knew it, but I couldn’t help having those feelings.

(In the end, I think she sought him out because she knew he wasn’t a nice guy. She was one of those that kept “ending up with” bad guy after bad guy, but of course it was no accident. I hope she got some help.)

19

Has it ever been happy and stable?!? Maybe you should take a break from the boards a bit. Now, I don’t know you personally, but from the last couple threads you’ve been involved with, you’re coming off here as dependent, unstable, and over-dramatic.

Take a step back, perhaps this is the perfect time for some introspection. I went through sometime similar about a year and a half ago, and I grew quite a lot because of it. I found out I was capable of a lot more than I thought I was. And I found out who my real friends were.

I hope the same happens for you.

BTW: How’s the counselling going?

20

Green Bean pretty much nailed what I would have said. I’m surprised that some of you have trouble understanding why she’s so upset–she JUST split up with the guy, then finds that someone she thought was a friend has not only jumped on her ex, but also hijacked her SDMB account and gotten her banned temporarily. I think I’d be pretty pissed under those circumstances too. If she’s still this pissed off in, say, six months, then you can tell her to let it go.