Seriously, it’s probably the alcohol talking, but fuck it. The girl I’ve been in love with for the past 2 years, the girl that hasn’t dated anyone since I’ve met her, now has a boyfriend. I mean, I’m not a bad looking guy, not at all, but I couldn’t get laid if my life depended on it, and I’ve still passed up chances at getting laid for this girl. I love her. But fuck it. Not only do I have women problems, but I can’t concentrate on shit like I used to. A 1400 on SAT’s is pretty good, yet I still can’t do anything right in colege. I can’t do any fucking math especially, no matter hgow hard I try. I’ts fucking ridiculous. The only thing I have going for me is three packs of camel lights and a pair of shiner bocks. Basically I have to get into sick ass shape with the help of winstrol and fina to stand any chance of getting ANY woman. Fuck, I apaologize for lacking any coherency in this thread whatsoever, but that’s the nature of the beast. Sorr.y nI still can’t stop thinking of the girl.
Fuck it all.
Posting while drunk is not always the smartest move, and as I’m sure you know, emotions are funny when you’re inebriated.
Her loss that it’s not you.
Part two contradicts part one.
You’ll also find that confidence itself is sexy, and if you have the attitude “nobody wants me” then you project that, and people who meet you get a vibe that something is wrong/off with you.
There’s no correlation between SAT performance and freshman grades. Don’t beat yourself up. And if this is taking up mental energy, kick the bitch to the curb.
Shiners? You live in texas? If you’re anywhere near Austin and need someone to have a beer with, lemme know.
With an attitude like that, you’d be better off becoming a monk.
I’ve been there, I’m sure many guys have.
Past a certain point you’ll realize that it’s all wallowing, that her memory isn’t worth your future.
Strength and courage, and stop drinking!
Yeah, it probably is the alcohol talking.
But two years?
Your post isn’t clear, but I’m assuming you haven’t really been dating this girl, haven’t passionately kissed her, or slept with her.
If I’m right, you likely never will and I’ve got one very important piece of advice for you: Move on.
If you’ve been following her around like a puppy dog, buying her drinks, being a shoulder to cry on, etc, then she will NEVER see you, a “friend friend”, in the same light that she sees her boyfriend.
And it’s not her fault, nor yours, merely nature.
Stop passing up chances, however unlikely they may be, and stand up like a man.
I don’t mean this to sound harsh, but I think it’s the truth.
Re-reading, maybe they export Shiner to other states. In any case, stop drinking! It’s not helping anything, at all.
OMG I just looked up winstrol and fina because I didn’t know what they were. WTF? That shit’s crazy. Some steroid blogger was saying he was taking Clomid!? That is seriously fucked up!!! What do you want to be doing that for; those big horrible muscles never look good anyway.
Seriously dude, you need to settle down. There are women who will love you without those nasty lumps and bumps on your arms and stuff.
Stop drinking please…
Sorry your lady friend didn’t see fit to date you. I really am. But if you shoot up steroids wouldn’t you negate that nice SAT score by turning smart into dumb? The brains that got you that number make you a lot more attractive to many women than illegally gotten muscles anyway.
Ugh. I missed that part.
Definitely don’t start taking steroids. Even if this girl you think you’re in love with likes big muscle freaks, she is SO in the minority.
Steroids may make your arms bigger, but they also make you into an asshole, and make you die young. Some people even say they make your balls shrink and lower your sex drive.
Roid freaks tend to become overly aggressive, not to women, but to other men.
No woman worth having finds that attractive.
Ugh, I personally think overly-muscular guys are disgusting. In fact, most of the women I know think muscle-bound guys are gross. Fit, sure, but don’t overdo it. Toned bodies = hot, muscle-bound freaks = not.
Not to mention what steroids can do to you. They killed my cousin when I was about 15. See, he was a weightlifter at Northwestern back then, and pretty much all the team did roids back then from what I gather.
Well, they fucked up his brain chemistry. Bad. I mean real bad. I saw him about a year before he died, and he looked absolutely awful. He was all bloated from the effects of the 'roids, and bulging with muscle everywhere else. He didn’t even really look like my cousin anymore.
He sure as hell didn’t act like him. Depressed, easily angered, nervous, twitchy. (We found out later he was doing coke and smoking pot too, to counteract the effects the 'roids were having on his sleep patterns).
And then, one day, my mom got a call from my aunt, who was in hysterics. My other cousin (the weightlifter’s older brother) had found his brother after they hadn’t heard from him recently. Hanging, where he’d apparently been for a few days.
Fuck steroids.
So, when you say she “hasn’t dated anyone since I met her”, do you mean you haven’t dated her either? You’re admiring her from afar because you haven’t had the guts to ask her out?
Because, you know, if you’ve been dumped, then yeah, life sucks. But if you’re just crying because she hooked up with someone other than you when you haven’t even been dating her, well…tough shit.
And don’t give us any of that “I can’t get wimmin unless I’m a steroid-eating muscle freak” crap, either since you also say:
And if you think steroids are going to make you look hot, you’ve been reading too many superhero comic books. Guys with a build like that look like freaks and they only appeal the tiny percentage of the population who share their fucked-up issues of body image.
Why oh why didn’t you tell her? And if you did… well why oh why didn’t you move on?
Whaaat? Come on. What Uvula Donor said…
In other words, I, for one, (ah, and Cerri and ggurl, and i’m sure countless Doper women) welcome our cute cuddly overlords. Huge muscles are about as impressive to me as a lawnchair, and exactly as boring. If you feel you’re not attracting people, and you want to change yourself, improve your brain; learn and explore new things. If you want a woman who values huge muscles over a great person, then you just might end up unhappy, be it through the woman or through steroids. Or else from the lack of exploring your non-physical self.
In OTHER other words… do what you want. If the girl isn’t right, then she isn’t right. You will find other girls, no; women. Someday down the line, you will find the right one and then wonder how you thought the other one was right at all.
I searched and searched and I still can’t find a molecule of sympathy for the OP. Grow up, already.
Don’t misunderstand me – I know the whole “pining after an unrequieted love” routine from long, sad, pathetic personal experience. (Strong emphasis on the word “pathetic.”) But don’t delude yourself into thinking that you “passed up chances at getting laid” for HER sake. You did it for the sake of your romantic fantasies and for the pleasure of convincing yourself that she owed you something because of your “sacrifice.” You would have done yourself a better turn by unequivocally letting this girl know you were interested, then making a point of going out and looking elsewhere if she let you know she wasn’t interested in you. Mooning around after a girl either without making your move at all or hoping for a change of heart after being rejected gets you nowhere because it leaves the girl getting exactly what she wants (a friend) and you getting exactly what you don’t want (a friend). Do yourself a favor and stay away from the girl for now.
And stay away from the 'roids and the booze, for Chrissakes. Depression is rampant in college, and I strongly suggest that you look into getting yourself checked out before you fuck up your life further. I wish I had done so when I was in your shoes.
You’ve never experienced unrequited love at a relatively young age? Lucky you.
By the way, if you really do want to get into shape I’d suggest a B vitamin complex and ZMA. Don’t fuck your body up with steroids.
I didn’t whine about it, if that matters.
Have a heart, Bryan. 
OP: Stop drinking. And let me buy you a beer… at some later date.
So unrequited love is a rites of passage now? Hmm. Of course you didn’t say that. But if someone got out of a relationship early when the signs were clear that love wasn’t recipricated, how are they lucky? Sounds more like a smart move to me. If someone isn’t returning the favor, why stay with them? And if you do stick with it, I don’t believe you deserve sympathy. You need to find a better mate who will return the favor. I mean, why give sympathy to someone who is pooring gasoline on an open flame, only to cry about the devestation later? Settling for a booty call is not an excuse either. But if it’s mutual, nothing wrong there. Just don’t get all pissy when that booty goes for someone else.
Sorry BabaBooey for comming off harsh, but if it’s anything like what Eleusis said, get over it, and find a hobby (even if you suck at it). Even if it wasn’t anything like what Eleusis said, understand that there are over 6 billion people on this planet. No way in hell is this girl, thee girl for you. There’s lots of them. And that goes for everyone, damnit! This doesn’t come from experience, but quite a bit of it from critical observation.
I agree with the ‘fuck life’ sentiment though.
It will be hard, but it’s time to move on. A guy who wants someone else is not attractive to a girl, and we can see it a mile off.
I know a guy who was in your situation, he has been in love with me for years. I have as little to do with him as possible now, because it’s very annoying being followed round like you have a little puppy.
You are right. If someone avoids this fucked up situation, it’s a smart move. However, I was dumb and found myself in a similiar fucked up situation when I was around his age. That’s why I can empathize with him.
And I think if you can make a point using a feather instead of a hammer when someone is in pain, you ought to use the feather first.
Babaa, I know the pain is undeniable and real but with time it passes to bearable. If you do Love this girl as you say, it is also an opportunity for your heart to mature and Love in new ways. Instead of mourning your loss, celebrate her heart and Love in whatever or whoever brings its satisfaction. Love unselfishly and you Love her truly.