All right, let’s do this, Diogenes the Cynic. You started off by announcing that only women who were raped as toddlers could ever possibly be involved in consensual polygamy. It was bad enough when you declared what healthy, feminist women never do, like you’re the fucking Emperor of Women, an attitude that doesn’t go too well with the rest of your politics. But then your rudeness and ignorance ratcheted up a level when your response to Lilairen was to ignore everything she’d said and - with a note that you knew you were being naughty but just couldn’t help yourself - turn the discussion personal because you wanted to score a totally unsupported point.
This is what’s going to happen now. You’re either going to fucking own up like a grown-up and apologize, to Lilairen and everybody else you’ve indiscriminately pissed on, for your rudeness and ignorance, with no pansy-ass qualifiers to preserve your sense of self-righteousness…or you’re going to establish the following:
That polyamory beyond one man-many women doesn’t exist, as you continue to try to ignore it.
That polyamory is inherently an unhealthy woman’s way of avoiding intimacy, as you’ve claimed, and that it leads to chaotic and unhealthy relationships.
That there is any actual, verifiable link between polyamorists and significant childhood trauma, as** Lilairen **provided cites already that there does not appear to be. (“I didn’t learn what I know on the internet” you said in one of the more blindingly stupid comments I’ve ever read from anyone on this board; because your gut tells you something, you think you can just shit all over a fucking Great Debates thread and declare that your subjective conclusions trump reality?)
That you are actually informed about this topic, and not just basing your bluster on your emotional reaction and some anecdotal evidence.
That your asking of a highly personal question in the middle of a GREAT FUCKING DEBATE, as if the answer could possibly prove anything to anyone in any fucking way, was a valid rhetorical manuever with the purpose of demonstrating your claim. Especially since you go on to reject identically valid evidence from someone who breaks your model! Please also explain how your other declarations of the obvious truth of things you can’t actually cite or even really defend are useful or welcome in that forum.
You tried to weasel around in the other thread, so I imagine you’ll do the same thing here, but I’ve made it as clear as I can. If you fail to support your actions and your argument, and you fail to apologize, I for one will lose all of the respect I once had for you, even as you continue to fight the good fight in other areas.