Seriously.
There has to be a quarry around there at the very least.
Good grief. No, OP, the brother isn’t totally in the wrong here. The family doesn’t seem to like you much, and from what you’ve said, they don’t have any particular reason to like you much. If you are causing all kinds of tension in the house by hanging out there (and banging his sister/the mother’s daughter), maybe you should make more effort to hang out at your place instead of hers.
Oh, to be 20 again. Come to think of it, no thanks.
OMG, where were you when I was a teenage girl? You sound *dreamy.
Have you considered airing all this out on The Jerry Springer Show? I think it would do you all a lot of good!
You certainly seem beholden to the idea that you were put upon this Earth to be the white knight for all these poor defenseless womenfolk you appear to be constantly surrounded with.
Maybe you can let them fight their own battles. Believe it or not, one can manage the vicissitudes of life even while possessing a vagina.
I think this is a good point.
I don’t think the OP is a slacker. Brother may well be a slacker and or asshole. Girlfriend has issues. Mom stressed about son who is slacker/asshole. Also stressed about daughter with issues. And all the bad interactions going on.
The OP hanging around, even if being no worse than the people living there, is NOT helping things.
If nothing else, lazy/slacker/assholes often have low tolerance for others displaying even a fraction of the behavior they find perfectly fine in themselves.
You should keep in touch with her, just so you can tell people you know the one teenaged girl on the planet who pretended to be younger than she actually was. As curiosities go, that’s up there with a well-tanned albino. (Are you sure she wasn’t retarded?)
Haven’t we all been there though? Your mom falsely tells your date that you’re underage and retarded?
So how old is the girlfriend and how old are you?
Gotta +1 on this. There’s a lot of intrafamily tension/stress going on here and a stranger being present is making it worse. I was in an analogous situation when I was 18, and it didn’t get better until the non-family-member left the house.
I second the recommendation for a new hobby for you and your girlfriend - bird-watching, recreational shooting, something outside would be good. Start up a thread in IMHO for recommendations (in fact, I think there was a recent thread asking for low cost or free hobbies).
Also, her mom is already stressed out with one child, try not to be a “bad influence” on your girlfriend. Don’t be the slacker boyfriend, talk about your plans for the future - degree, career, etc. Demonstrate passion and drive, rather than being content to work at the Quik-E-Mart and play video games all day. And encourage your girlfriend to grow and develop her own strengths and skills. The odds are you won’t end up together forever, but you can and should leave each other better than when you entered the relationship.
/drunken old-fart advice you never asked for
He could join the Tea Party and take up political activism.
Nah man, gonna have to disagree with you there.
His writing abilities far surpass those of the average double-wide dweller.
OP: Nice post. 8/10 for articulation.
3/10 for creative insults. You need a thesaurus.
So where he said:
[QUOTE=Budget Player Cadet]
Yeah, I wanted to leave on Christmas day, after your mother ran crying to her room (literally) because of the shit you pulled. It’s not because I’m a video game addict and there was a ban on Xbox during the days around Christmas. I can live without internet and video games. It’s because your mother had a fucking nervous breakdown and I figured it would be for the best if she didn’t have another teenager to deal with.
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Means he understand this, and was making an effort to alleviate the situation from being exacerbated by his presence.
If mom feels like you’re spending too much time at her house playing video games, have you considered spending less time hanging out on her couch playing video games?
For THAT day. When the shit hit the fan. Good for the OP for doing the right thing that day.
However, the day to day hanging around long term is probably a big part of the problem. The son probably is an asshole. The OP hanging around is probably just making everything worse for everyone involved. Nobody probably cares about the asshole son, but the hanging around is making him more of an asshole and making everybody even more miserable in the process.
Hell, most people who aren’t assholes or even live with assholes don’t particularly like other folks they have no direct interest hanging around a whole lot.
Somebody fill me in on the retarded girl thing. I must have missed it. Link or something, please?
BPC, Pending further evidence to the contrary, I think you’re ok. Follow some of the advice in the thread, though. You need to limit your time around this dude.
Exactly.
I don’t understand why the OP can’t pick girlfriend up and go somewhere else with her. Seriously, she would benefit from not being around the house all the time. So what if it’s, what, 45 minutes? An hour? Take the drive to Anywhere Else Than Bumfuck and spend the day, regularly. Or just pick her up and take her back to your house. Catch an Amtrak on the cheap if you don’t want to spend on gas, and skip to another town for the day. Who cares how long the train trip is - you clearly have nothing better to do, and it gets both of you out of the house and together.
Honestly, just hanging around GF’s house is the lazy-ass answer. What kind of young couple wants to hang around Mom’s house, anyway? I sure as fuck didn’t, and I had a functional family.
As the friend of a harassed single Mum of a teenage daughter there is a sure fire way to make it easier on her to have you around… make yourself useful around the house. Do more than just clean up after yourself (you are doing that already, right?) take on some of the stuff she does. Maybe even ask if there are any jobs she needs doing.
Aside from that just take yourself and the girlfriend out for a walk now and then. Visit her friends maybe. And if you’re still bored hanging out in Nowwheresville take some schoolwork with you and get on with that while your girlfriend does hers.