tramtwo said:
I’d be less sure, if I were you. And why would I think I was wrong about you?
Uh huh. Assume you won’t like me and move on, bunky.
I make my judgments according to the evidence I have–unless I get contrary evidence, they stand. And what I am is no business of yours.
But what I am is your biz? You are a very funny person, I think. Have a good patrol erum day.
tramtwo said:
It is once you post it–mine and everybody else’s who wanders in.
And I notice you didn’t answer my question–why should I conclude my first impression of you was incorrect?
This is beginning to drift more into IMHO territory, but I’ve also had good blind date experiences with someone I met through the net. Two, in fact. Both were during college, and both turned into wonderful relationships.
And fnord, I agree with your way of getting out of a bad date.
–sublight.
fnord, I’m right there with ya. Tried the online dating thing for the first time about a year ago. Met this girl online, chatted over IM then over the phone for a few weeks before we met in person. She had sent her picture over, and she looked pretty darn good, let me tell ya – I was really looking forward to this.
So I show up to pick her up, she answers the door, and I find out three things she had neglected to tell me about over the phone.
She had gained about 75 lb since the picture had been taken, and was now up over 200 lb in weight (my estimation).
It being the first date, I was wearing a button-down and good pair of chinos. She was wearing ripped jeans, a hooded sweatshirt and – I kid you not – mismatched socks.
We chatted prior to going for a drink (I figured that was the easiest way to get out of this quickly – one drink, “I gotta get up early tomorrow”, and bolt), and she mentioned that she had been in a car accident a few months prior, was on painkillers, and now thought she was addicted.
Great. She’s huge, she’s dressed like she’s going to a tractor pull, and she’s addicted to painkillers. Check, please! I took her out for one drink, feigned fatigue, and got out as soon as humanly possible.
However, I’ve done some other internet online dating since and have had some good results – some most definitely lacking in personality, but some actually pretty cool people. Surprising.
And fnord, also agree with your method – she may not have dealt up-front with you, but you handled it with a minimum of muss and fuss, and you didn’t stoop to her level by treating her meanly.
This girl actually showed you a picture of SOMEONE ELSE?
That’s messed up. I had to deal with deceptive pictures, 18 year old pictures (the woman honestly had none that were recent), but never a picture of someone else.