Fucking Plenty of Fish

Thanks Rick. I appreciate your advice, as always.

See, that’s exactly the sort of thing I’m talking about. No wonder you’re floundering.
And I also met my wife on eHarmony.

My dear old (departed) dad always told me “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” He was very adamant that one did NOT meet a loved one for life, but rather people can and will experience numerous people with whom they can live with during life. My dad was a very wise man. I miss him dearly!

nah, that’s eHarmony.

not always :stuck_out_tongue:

Ah, so you’re not necessarily looking for Ms. Right; you’ll settle for Ms. Right Here Right Now?

The OP is like me: divorced guy in his 50’s who doesn’t want any complicated relationships, or messy hookups. He just wants some nice sterile, anonymous, non-committal cyber-sex. Wham bam, thank you spam….And he wants it set to music. Something like this:
[thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out] [thrust in] [pull out] [badda-bing]…

Leaffan:………girl, I don’t know, I don’t know why,…can’t get enough of your love, baby…[repeat x 3]…ohhhhhh……see ya later, alligator…

Cyber-babe:Oh, Leaffan you so big…you so big you blow my wig, hey Leaffan!..hey Leaffan!…[repeat x 3]…ohhhhhh…in a while, crocodile…

EHarmony isn’t a Christian site. Its founder is a Christian who believed that we should all be paired up in lasting marriages. The site itself isn’t Christian at all, IME.

I’ve had no trouble finding people of all faiths and no faiths, various political persuasions, and ethnic or national origins. There’s no proselytizing, direct or implied there, either.

It’s been a while since I was last on eHarmony, but I suspect the non-religiousness of the site hasn’t changed.

True, but only if you’re looking for the opposite sex. Gay folks are invited to go elsewhere.

That’s what I’ve heard, too. The attractive women are overwhelmed.

No, the woman whose search I heard the most about is now dating a guy she met on one of those sites. But no, she didn’t reply to every note she got. She replied to the small number that interested her. Apparently, it gets overwhelming for the attractive women, though. She ended up removing photos and only sending photos to guys who messaged her based on other stuff.

Fwiw, my friends who use dating sites seem to prefer Match and OK Cupid. And Tinder, but you are a little old for Tinder.

Where do you get that from? My God people are obtuse.

I’m over 50. I’m married, and not in the market, so take my opinion with a grain of salt. But I would consider that disappointing but not a deal breaker. I’d probably encourage you to try viagra, and see if that helped.

If it just won’t work for me for some mysterious reason, I suppose I’m glad I’m not missing much.

I’m about the OP’s age and have tried Tinder. Haven’t had any luck with it, but it doesn’t seem that I’m too old.

Uncle Miltin’? Is that you?

My constitutional inability to resist an opportunity for a lame pun. That was what was behind the comment about you “floundering”, as well. No disparagement intended, my friend - I also spent some time trolling the online romance sea, and I know it’s frustrating.

But as I said, I did end up meeting the woman I married on eHarmony, so online dating sites can work. I wish you luck.

There were two until I deleted my profile several months ago in complete frustration. I feel your pain, Leaffan.

I’ve said before that I liked you, Leaffan, and this confirms it. Once a month (or less) would heaven for me. So move to Oregon, why doncha?

Go for it!

OKCupid was great. IMHO, much better than POF or match, both of which sucked. OKCupid has a good matching algorithm.