Fudge up enough, and sometimes you learn a lot more than you think

…or at least I did. I was in a relationship for a year. It was the longest relationship I had held down, and I kind of had the impression that because it was going so well (at least the first half of it) that I had finally ‘figured things out’. Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out as well as I had hoped, and ended recently.

One fear I briefly held was that the whole thing was just a fluke, that I happened to get really lucky and was now at square one. But I quickly realized that taking the whole thing positively was the best way to get over it, and I found out something rather funny in the process- that when I got back into the whole dating scene, things were a lot easier than I had originally thought. All the mundane aspects of conversation, getting to know someone, taking the initiative about asking questions, etc just seemed so natural and seamless. So while I thought I had gone in a big unproductive circle through 2005, I guess I learned a lot more than I realized :smiley:

Similar thing happened with me. I had such a horrible train wreck of a relationship that I was able to use it as the litmus test for future ones. “Does this girl act like X? If yes, run away, if no, ask out for another date.” It really made things simple and saved my skin a couple times.

-Tcat

Funny how things work that way.

I figure even if things don’t go in a romantic direction, it is a great opportunity for me to make a lot more friends. :slight_smile: