Well, I’m concluding my little story here in the forums.
About a year ago, I came here asking for advice on how to ask out one of my best friends. I took your advice. Asked her out. She accepted. We were a happy couple for a while.
I posted another thread after I found out she cheated on me with another one of my friends. I admitted to some wrong-doing on my part, including but not limited to installing a keylogger on her computer to make sure she wasn’t still cheating on me. We tried to work it out.
And now, to conclude this whole story, last night she told me we were both making too many sacrifices to be in this relationship. I compromised too much by staying with a girl who would cheat on me. She compromised by constantly feeling “punished” by me for what she’d done (although I don’t feel I was punishing her a bit). In any case, she’d decided there was too much damage to fix and it was best to cut our losses.
She felt the same way I did… she saw us old, with children, with the white picket fence and the whole “American Dream” stuff. She just didn’t see us “now”.
I’m upset and sad, but also a little relieved, I guess. I’m sad I lost 2 of my best friends through this “experience”. I’m sad I lost a year of my life in this relationship. I’m sad I have to go back to dating, which I thought I was done with forever.
But I’m excited for the possibilities, too. After a week or so of moping, I’ll get back on that horse and start dating again.
But honestly, if she calls and asks for a second (okay, third) chance, I’d tell her yes in a heartbeat. Despite everything that’s happened, I still love her more than I love myself (which is probably my first mistake).
Thanks for the help asking her out. Thanks for the bit of condolence when she cheated. Thanks for putting me in my place about the keylogging. Thanks for reading this. The end of a chapter is always sad, but I have no regrets. Even knowing the ending, I’d go back and ask her out all over again.