Especially in the first few years of marriage, I think it’s important to live together if possible. In my experience, the relationship itself matures and develops as much as the individual partners do. My friends who’ve done the long distance thing as newly-weds found that while they grew individually during the first few years of their marriage, their relationship had never deeply grown, because they lived so far apart. While my friends were 30 year olds, their relationship was closer to that of a couple in their early 20s. Their marriage is still going through the growing pains that couples who lived together had already experienced in the first couple years of marriage.
Obviously, there are examples of couples who have successful long distance marriages. And if I needed to, I could live away from my husband for a few years. But it would have to be for a far more important reason than school.
(Sorry, Juliette, I don’t mean to hijack your thread. I’ll be quiet now.)