This thread reminded me of my family’s situation.
In a nutshell: my cousin feels like he’s too ashamed to face his parents and the rest of us, for completely nonsensical reasons. I’ve seen my aunt cry out of grief for them. I’ve seen the hurt his brother & his father are carrying around. It breaks my heart. I won’t go into the details of the situation, but what he did that he’s so ashamed of is very very minor. I’m a hundred thousand times the black sheep that he is, and it doesn’t stop me from having a great relationship with my family.
He did speak a little to his brother, and we think that mental illness might be involved. His wife is definitely mentally ill–that is a fact–and it might’ve creeped into his mindset a little.
Have you ever been in one of these situations, on either end, and care to share your experiences & thoughts? Is there -any- chance that if I flew down there all of a sudden I could be able to convince him or is it one of those “he has to do it on his own” situations?