My son is just a little bit younger than your daughter. This is my first Mother’s day too.
The idea of leaving the baby with some one else is slightly appealing, but I know I would spend the entire time worrying if the baby was crying. (I’ve got a real mama’s boy) What I would love is if my husband would automatically change him, try to sooth him when he’s crying, maybe take a feeding if that’s possible. A backrub that doesn’t necessarily lead to sex. That’s the last thing I want to do. There’s no energy. A clean house would be nice, including doing things like scrubbing down the bathroom and all the floors. A hot uniterrupted shower or bath.
Top it off with a card “signed” by your daughter. I took finger paint and made a footprint on paper, cut it out and taped it to cards for the grandmothers. It’s not that easy to do so have a stack of paper ready.