I just got done talking to my mother about funeral arrangements for my grandpa. My parents are probably going to leave tomorrow morning and my brothers and I and our families will have to leave sometime Saturday or Sunday. Then my mom says that grandma’s going to have a full house with all of us being there. AND THEN she asks me where Matt and I are going to stay!! WTF.
I assumed we’d be staying with Grandma or my Aunt Alice and Uncle Gene but according to my extremely old fashioned mother… since Matt and I aren’t married yet we can’t stay in grandma’s house because grandma won’t like it and she doesn’t think I should stay with my Aunt and Uncle either. So I guess we’re supposed to fork out money we don’t have for a fuckin’ hotel because we’re shackin’ up. It doesn’t matter that we’re getting married in 5 months… fuck no.
It just really pisses me off that she’s like that. I know my Aunt and Uncle won’t give a shit because they lived together for 8 years before they got married… mom doesn’t think I should ask them though. What the fuck are we supposed to do now! We can’t really afford to drive back to Ohio to begin with, let alone spend $50-75 a night for a hotel room.
I’ve often had similar discussions regarding my dear sweet wife and her wack-o mother, and as such, I’d like to suggest the same thing to you as I would to her:
Why not say “Fuck you, ma” and ask your Aunt and/or Uncle anyway? I mean, since they (apparently) won’t mind?
I talked to Mom & Dad last night about funeral arrangements for Grandpa and they said that Grandma told them that everyone can stay at her house, she has plenty of room for everyone… Matt and I included. My mom also apologized for what she said to me and said that she never should have said anything. I guess this isn’t Pit material any longer. Although, it still pisses me the fuck off that my mom thinks the way she does about shit like that. Fuck it… it’s not important.
I had (had, because I’ve since decided that his idiotic beliefs are too much for me) a good friend who was very much a Christian Fundementalist. When my ex and I decided to get married, we decided to get legally married in Colorado, where it’s as simple as signing a marriage license, but have a ceremony & reception in my hometown in Michigan. Biblethumper friend lived in Minneapolis, which is a good stopover when you’re driving from Colorado to Michigan.
We signed the papers in CO, making us legally married. We then got in a car and drove to Minneapolis. Thumper friend refused to let us sleep in the same house, not to mention the same bed. I had to go sleep at his girlfriend’s house, and my then-husband stayed with the friend. When we pointed out that we were already legally married, he said that we weren’t married in the eyes of God. When I pointed out that our ceremony was not a church ceremony, and no priest/pastor/minister/whatever would be doing the ceremony, he couldn’t think of an answer. But we still weren’t allowed to stay in the same house.
Meanwhile, my mother had been letting us sleep together while visiting for years, even though she’s a pretty heavy Catholic.
Same friend, when he came to visit us, was given two rooms. One for him, one for his girlfriend (now wife). They slept in separate bedrooms for 1/8th of 1 hour of the first night. After that, they stayed in one room. I have no doubt that they didn’t have intercourse; however, I also have no doubt that actual penetration was the only thing ommitted.
ReserviorDog Thanks for stickin’ up for me. And I agree, he was a big stupid prick. I’m a little bitter; this is a friend who I truly care about, and I spent years (yes, years) trying to maintain his friendship. I finally dropped him after his conversion to Christianity, and his subsequent evidence that he was not, in fact, truly Christian in the least.
