Hi everyone. I’m a girl (28) and I recently came back to my home country after 10 years. The other day I got a friend request on Facebook from a girl (28) who I was friends with 12 years ago. Obviously then I moved and we never saw each other again. I had a crush on her back then but never did anything. So I thought I might try my luck this time. We started talking and I asked her for her number, texted her to ask if she was single. She said ‘yes’. I asked her if she was interested in anyone and she said ‘no’. So I asked her if she would like to date and she said ‘Let me think about it… ok? kiss smiley’.
It’s been a day now and I haven’t heard anything from her. I’m a girl and I have no clue what she means by this. I don’t know if I should keep hoping or not.
P. S She has exams for the next 2 weeks so she might be busy but I see her active on facebook and WhatsApp all the time.
I don’t claim to understand any women. But here is my assessment: she is heterosexual. At a time you were in her social circle and she found she wanted to play up a bi aspect with you for whatever reason. After 12 years she doesn’t want to go into that mode with you. If she were really interested in a lesbian relationship, but just not sure about you, she would at least include you in some non-date social interactions. Unless you are a social pariah no one wants to hang out with, or burned a bridge with her in some major way in the past.
You haven’t seen her for 12 years, and you didn’t indicate in your post that you’ve spent any meaningful time together since you’ve returned.
She might be interested in getting to know you better (forget how well you may have known each other before) and maybe from that a relationship will develop.
This sort of thing goes for any type of adult relationship, regardless of the genders of the asker and the ask-ee. You don’t just come back around and expect someone to be able to answer “DO U LIKE ME Y/N” after figuring out they’re single.
I have observed lesbians are very “flocky”. So if she were lesbian she would have invited her to a social gathering instead of just saying she would think about it. (Unless the OP is a pariah or burned a bridge.)