- I was a jerk who, eventually, just wanted sex.
- I think she determined I was boring. It was never really explained to me.
- We had a non-monogamous relationship and she had another boyfriend, but she dumped me when I told her I was going to start dating a second partner.
- I finally realized just how narcissistic she was and left. Hooray!
It’s kinda a tangled web - but in a nutshell. My ex was self absorbed to the point of
narcissistism and also very worried about keeping up appearances. He was exciting and charming while we were courting (many narcissists are) but as I got to know him better (after the marriage unfortunately) it became increasingly evident that he was kinda hollow inside. There just wasn’t much “there” there. I always felt he was gay but couldn’t admit it to himself let alone anyone else because everyone knows that sucessful regular men have wives. So he’d confess his homoerotic fantasies ( and tell me that just because he wanted to suck another man’s cock and take part in anal sex with a man and spends his free time on gay porn sites did not make him gay).
Perhaps it was because of his confusion re: sexuality, perhaps not, but he was extremely unhappy and angry a good deal of the time. Then he figured out that alcohol made the pain go away for a while. When he became a sexually confused, angry, unhappy alcoholic I finally enough is enough and we separated. He met a woman via the internet within a week of moving out and thought he’d found the answer to his prayers - (SHE didn’t drive him to drink. SHE made him feel like a stud) and he filed for divorce. Needless to say - I didn’t contest.
Are you the guy I see driving around town with the license plate, “NOHFRS”?
That’ll teach you to sleep with livestock. 
Ex #1: Abusive
Ex #2: Sociopath
Ditto on both.
I can’t deal with wussies anymore. I don’t want asshole macho jerks either - but I’d like somebody, for the lack of a better phrase, who will “take it like a man” to a certain degree. You know?
I’ve only had two relationships in my life that were significant enough that why we broke up was important.
Ex-fiance: I realized that he had no idea who I really was, which was why everything I did surprised him. The person he’d built me up to be wouldn’t do anything I would do.
Ex-boyfriend: He deserted the other person he was dating when that person suffered a heart attack–visited him at the hospital each day and assured him he would do everything he could to take care of him. When P came home, he discovered that R had completely moved out of their apartment without saying anything about it. This happened after R convinced P to move from Toronto to San Jose because he “couldn’t stand for them to be apart.” Why wouldn’t I break up with someone so disloyal?
He refused to grow up and I got tired of dating a child.
-foxy
Lots of reasons, most of them symptoms of the real issue, drugs.
I really don’t know why she left me.
I’ve been trying to figure it out for a while now.
Everything was going so swimmingly.
She was such a mature soul with such great judgment.
I’m at a loss, really. :dubious:
She figured out she could do better.
We’re both much happier, I’m sure.
hm… I’m not even sure who my most recent ex is. laughs my most recent I don’t think was ever my boyfriend, but we’re no longer whatever-we-were because he and his then-girlfriend (and my something-or-other) broke up, and she and I stayed together. we’re still friends, I’m still with the girl, and he’s with the girl he should’ve been with the whole time. =)
my most recent actual ex, well, it’s all mushed together. he was an asshole when he was angry or hurt, said things specifically to hurt me, and so I did the same. even when I stopped doing that, he still did it. so I distanced myself from him after about 2 & a half years of this, and that emotional distance was just enough to allow me to fall completely in love with my girlfriend. he and I are still very close (in fact he’s coming to watch a sweet ninja movie with me later tonight), but it took a realllllllllly long time for him to forgive me.
She ran off with another guy.
Hubby #1: He thought that if he could just hit me hard enough, I’d agree with him.
Hubby #2: What Magic Eyes said.
Boyfriend #1
All I asked for for Valentine’s Day was a small bouquet of flowers. When the bunch he got me got damaged, he had his mother go out and buy me new ones. She came in with a huge bouquet of every flower I ever knew existed along with balloons that said “I love you”.
It creeped me right the hell out and showed how little he cared by not going out himself.
Boyfriend #2
He told me that he liked to throw rocks at squirrels.
Hey, it was high school and I didn’t have very high standards back then…
DC
She decided that being on the internet was more important than our son.
Surfing or webcam?
The restraining order says I can’t get within 100 feet.
Kidding. Seriously, it was many reasons, but in the end it was all for one reason:
She had no sense of self-worth unless it was given to her, and required regular doses of vitamin EgoBoost or she’d get depressed, but when she got them she was a narcissist who was too good for me; had a co-dependent and completely unhealthy relationship with her on-again-off-again ex/father of her two children; was overly jealous about any female I came into contact with, but didn’t feel any jealousy of mine when she shared a bed with a male friend was warranted (they just slept, honest! :dubious:); she craved attention and was not willing to admit that the guys willing to give her the attention she soaked up like a sponge were interested in anything other than bedding her (or at least never admitted she believed it); she was a liar and a cheat; and ultimately, she was a self-absorbed, ignorant hypocrite with no desire to be anything else.
It’d just be easier to say she has a low self-esteem, but that just doesn’t demonstrate how screwy she is.
IRC mainly.
She wanted children; i didn’t.
Of my two major exes, one reason for each:
FIRST MAJOR EX: Druggie (and frequently dead).
SECOND MAJOR EX: He was afraid we were heading for a commitment (from the Latin word “comitus”, meaning “strong desire to screw other people”).