Quasimodal, If you like the gal and can’t make the move to ask her out, just think of how miserable you will feel when someone else makes the move first and freezes you out. Just use that awful feeling to spur you to go for it. It’s trite, but true that faint heart never won fair maiden.
Ask her out, ask her out, ask her out!
Particularly if you’re the cute guy in my office and you’re thinking of asking me out… 
Are you the cute girl in my office who’s always chatting me up by the coffee machine? What? You don’t drink coffee? And you live in Moscow? Damnit.
Truly a loss, Russian women are the best. 
Well, as I’m not Russian, I guess it’s a good thing I’m not the one chatting you up by the coffee machine
If you don’t do it, I swear I will find your workplace, and I will go make a move on the girl, get her, and then with her arm around my shoulder, go and kick you in your balls.
Good luck!
In all my life the main regrets I have are related to not asking when I thought I had a chance.
Further, in all my life the times I have been rejected have not changed the over-all quality of my life. The hurt and embarrassment fade pretty quickly.
You could gain a lot and lose very little in the asking.
Well I’m happy to share a few from my very extensive repertoire of can’t-miss pick-up lines.
Go with one of these:
“There are 206 bones in the human body. Would you like another one?”
“Hi, my name is Mr. Right. I understand you’ve been looking for me.”
“Roses are red, violets are blue. Would you like to have sex with me?”
While I can’t guarantee success, I’d be curious to hear how things turn out.
Forget all the rest, THIS is THE SONG. And try to get the suit & hairstyle right!
There are a couple of ways you can approach this. You can trick her into going out with you by degrees, or you can ask her out on a date.
The first way, you say, “I was just going to go get coffee. You heading that way?” Don’t be dissuaded if she says she doesn’t drink coffee. She probably doesn’t, and she’s socially inept on top of that. Next time try, “I was just going to get a soda. You feel like taking a break?” The problem with this approach is that it’s hard to tell when to stop.
The other way is to find out something that she’s interested, or choose something that she’s fairly likely to be interested in, and say, “Hey, I have two tickets to this event on Saturday the 11th at seven PM. Can you make it?” Her response to that will give you your hint whether she’s interested in you or not. If she accepts, you’re golden. If she declines, you can try again. The problem is that she also might be socially inept, and keep turning you down because she’s not swift enough to realize you’re interested in her. If she seems like she sincerely wants to go but can’t because of a previous engagement, ask her again.
Yep. What Atomicktom said, plus what **Gala Matrix Fire ** said.
Firstly, put the shoe on the other foot and know that having someone show interest in you is flattering, no matter who it is, and unless she’s a flaming bitch from hell who hates you, you’re going to at very least brighten her day.
Secondly, don’t overdo it. Since you work together, you have plenty of socially acceptable ways of getting together without the pressure of it being “a date” yet. So ask her to go for coffee or lunch, and see if you can gauge her interest that way.
The next time I see her, I’ll pass her a note that says,
Do you like Quasimodal?
YES
NO
Are you sure she’s straight and lookin to date (anyone)?
Why not pull the old ‘Favor repayment’ or ‘Make a bet you know you’ll lose’? Like ‘If you help me talk to this client I’ll buy you lunch’ or ‘I’m never going to get this project done by Friday. I swear, if I manage it, I’ll be so happy I’ll… buy you lunch!’ See how she reacts.
I know some people will say just to get in there, no pussyfooting, but I’ve always liked the ‘hypothetical date’ test because it gives you a good chance to read her. And a good chance for her to see where you’re going and either encourage you or make it clear that dating is out of the question.
Well, Quasi, you’re probably going down in flames. But you have to do it, because they won’t. Just remember, by making a total fool out of yourself and having your heart ripped out and stomped on, you’re making life easier for her. And that’s what really matters. I think.
Quasimodal,
Ask yourself this question, “If I ask her out, what is the worst that could happen?”
If the answer is “She could pull out a 357 Magnum and shoot me in the head,” then you don’t want to ask her out. If the answer is anything other than that then it can’t be any worse and you should go for it. You really have nothing to lose.
A few key rules:
- When you ask her out, don’t get between her and her young.
- If she reacts angrily, don’t run. Instead, face her and back away slowly.
- Try to make yourself appear as large as possible. Stand up straight, raise your arms, open your jacket.
- If she attacks you, fight back. Although you don’t know her well, use whatever is closest at hand – tell her she has bad skin, or that her purse looks really cheap. Whatever you do, don’t cry.
When I was young I met a girl I liked. But I didn’t know how much she liked me.
So I asked her out and she agreed. But I didn’t know how much she liked me.
So one week she asked where I was taking her to on Saturday. But I didn’t know how much she liked me.
I told her I was playing chess for 3 hours on Saturday. She came and waited for 3 hours, reading a book. But I didn’t know how much she liked me.
Eventually she married someone else. :smack:
- If none of the above works, tell her you like her shoes. :eek:
Do it because…well, some of us are married, and while we’re generally happy, we will never again have the thrill of asking someone out and starting an exciting new relationship. And we must live vicariously through you. We must! DO IT!!!
Yes! And some of us are even pretending to be the woman in this scenario. <hastily> Not* me*, of course, but probably someone is…
Ask her out for lunch. Or to get a puppy with you*. Or to check out the new art exhibit.
*only if you genuinely want a puppy.
Am I the only one who looks and this and feels a twinge of reservation? “Work with her” could mean, “We work in separate departments, in separate buildings, for a 50,000-person corporation,” or it could means, “We work in the same department and have the same boss.” Case number 1 I’d feel okay about, case number 2 not so much.
Could you clarify?