I’m a teacher, and she’s interning at a school I teach at. She will be gone in december to finish her studies…of course it only make it harder to get together after Christmas. I’m used to my life being complicated though…keep the support coming…I see her again in T-minus 2 days.
Show interest in something she likes to do. Learn about it and ask her how she got started with that hobby. Transition the conversation from (hobby) to (her and the hobby) to (her). Listen, listen, listen. There will be a quiz later and if you get everything 100% right, you may get a very nice prize.
“Tell him what he’s won Johnny…”
[Johnny Olsen]“You’ve won the 2007 home edition of tiger-in-your-bed! Its the one thing every guy harder than oak and shy-to-boot needs. Learn to be patient, invest time, and reap tremendous rewards! Learn to use hotel body lotions for purposes other than they were intended! And, for even more challenging experiences, try the ‘share your kink’ multiplier round. She’ll either call the cops or fess up to wanting to try it too…so what have you got to lose? Its not like those bail-bonds guys hang out at work…so go for it. *‘Risk the Hickey and Go for Blisters!!!’ * From Parker Brothers…”[/Johnny Olsen]
Close, but if you want to really flatter her, you could do no better than this song.
Heehee, I know what that is without even looking.
What’s it gonna beeeeee?
I was asking the same question as your OP on here a while back, except in the case of a friend rather than a coworker. I eventually got my courage up to actually ask her, and despite the fact that she politely told me she wasn’t interested, I felt much better after asking then during all the hand wringing and “What if?”-ing ahead of time. I mentally made a huge deal out of something that really, truly wasn’t one. In the end, she felt flattered that I was interested and I was happy for a resolution one way or another. The only thing you’ll regret is not asking. 
I’m not the most socially adept person, and if I can manage to do it, I’m sure you can. 
Meanwhile, I have a Vincent Vega thing going on with the Mia Wallace to my friend’s Marsellus Wallace. This last Monday we went to a movie together–alone–for the first time. A while ago she took me out for a manicure and pedicure*, and afterwards she said “I feel like I’m cheating with you.” To this day, I’m not sure if I should be kicking myself or thanking myself for not blurting out “I wish!”. Anyway, it’s getting mighty awkward. I am pretty sure there’s nothing more to it than a pair of friends who share a taste in movies that nobody else we know is in on, but there’s always been a little bit of a subcurrent to it, too. But it’s kind of like, if I ask her out, the “worst” thing that can happen is she says no and gets all awkward, and the “best” thing that can happen is I’ll achieve boyfriend (or at least fling) status with the object of my desire and then suffer the interminable wrath of Marsellus. What’s a man to do?
(Note, that’s just my situation; pretty different from yours, OP.)
*Which segues nicely into an AIM conversation I had with an old Air Force buddy a while back.
Me: Yeah, so this girl took me out for a manicure and pedicure.
OAFB: That’s pretty gay.
Me: You would think so.
OAFB: I would.
Me: But that’s traditionally what women do before they sex me.
OAFB: Son, that is the strangest mating ritual I have ever heard of.
Reminds me of a line we used to use in boot camp. “Hey, baby, how many stripes do you have on you? How’d you like one more?”
“Do you have some Jewish in you? No? Would you like some?” (Substitute Irish, Russian, Mexican, whatever.)
For the song, OP, try this or this.
I once gave a super-hot coworker who I’d had my eyes on a pair of Morrissey tickets. As I handed them to her, she said:
SHCWIHMEO: "Oh my gosh, I don’t know how to repay you! Is there a…favor I can do for you?
Me: “…Favor?”
SHCWIHMEO: “Yeah. A… favor.”
Me: “Like, what kind of favor?”
SHCWIHMEO: “You know. Any kind of… favor… that you think I might be able to do for you.”
Me: “Uh, er, um, uh, ah, um, Ican’tthinkofanythingthanksanywayhavefunattheshowgottagonowbye.”
:smack: :smack: :smack:
Fuck, I still can’t believe I didn’t take the hint! FUCK!
Sorry, this is a sore point for me.
FUCK!
This is sad, usually if a guy has this much trouble asking a girl out, he lacks the confidence to get her to say yes even if he can somehow muster up the courage. This will lead to heartbreak.
But ask her anyway, you obviously need the practice. You’ll probably be rejected, but if you keep getting rejected eventually you will get used to it and will be able to ask a woman out without fear, at which time you may have some success.
Yeah, be careful with that one. Guys who show too much interest in a ladies’ footwear sometimes get mis-categorized.
Haha! That was awesome!!
Quasimodal - From a girl, just go for it! Be bold. 
Live life on the edge. Girls like that. At least I do. :dubious:
Have you ever just sat down with her during lunch for some simple, casual conversation? I mean, you have a common topic (work) that you could talk about, and meanwhile, you’d be getting a feel for her and where she’s coming from.
(Hee. I said “getting a feel” and “she’s coming.”)
Anyway, it would be a relaxed situation, and you might find out whether:
She’s the kind you wish to pursue further, or,
You’d rather choke yourself with your own underwear than spend another minute in her presence.
I hope you encounter the first scenario.
Good luck.
I think you mispelled “bang her once and lose her number.”
Dude, it’s okay. I’ve had and fumbled similar hints in my life…two that I can think of off the top of my head.
I’ll go sulk now.
I intentionally fumble those hints because, if I want to be with someone, I want them to be forward about it. Not dancing around by calling it a favor.
I will try tomorrow, and give an update once it’s finished. Wish me luck.
By the way, thanks for the reassurance and encouraging advice. As a teacher…may I say you royally suck at reassurance. In my life I’ve run a half marathon, moved to a small town to become a successful teacher, lost 50 pounds, worked many jobs to make ends meet…and I’ve done so all on my own. Yes I have asked women out before…but frankly I think the women I’ve asked have been too short sighted to see that I’m a hard working, caring human being, that also likes to have fun. This may be no different…but sometimes it’s just nice to have some reassurance when you’re doing everything on your own.
It’s nice to know you can sum up my personality from 2-3 posts. Any other grand observations?
Yeah, but she was SUPER HOT. And really artistic–she has a film degree now and she’s working for an independent film studio in LA; she’s probably produced at least a short movie or two by now professionally, and her undergrad work was amazing. Really open-minded and artistic…right up my alley. Or up her alley, if only I hadn’t been so dense. :smack:
There is no try.
Not only do guys often not get the hints anyway, but it’s not really all that fair for the guy involved to have to be the one to ask the girl out or proposition her. It’s time a few more women took the initiative.
I just did my part. I kind of asked out a male coworker today. w00t!
Oooh, did it work?