Do you have any idea how douchey that sounds? Just apologize for acting like a jerk, already.
I do not recall saying any such thing.
gms453, you can be funny and pompous, or funny without being pompous. I suggest you chose one or the other.
Either way, lose the pissant, petty-ass, passive aggressive “I was just asking …”; people seem to have zero tolerance for it here.
I don’t believe the OP started this thread to discuss others’ posts that you are mischaracterizing.
You trashed a woman for having the guts to take an unexpected pregnancy to term under less than ideal conditions, and no-one is going to love you for that.
Don’t tell us you were “just asking”; you weren’t. You were trying to insult or offend her, or you are exceedingly ill-informed on human sexuality, procreation, and birth control. Since it is damned near impossible to be so ill-informed if one has access to a computer, we can only assume … oh, damn it, now you have me one-ing and we-ing … where was I? … we can only assume the pose of innocence was spurious, and the offensive phraseology was deliberate.
Don’t think so, but I’m game: What nerve do you think you touched?
You have misread her/his post. Read it again.
You wouldn’t be responding to me if I hadn’t.
Do you have any idea how immature and juvenile your use of the word “douchey” sounds? It’s almost as immature and juvenile as your name calling. In the world of grownups, name calling never wins an argument.
Is your wit for hire? Long term lease?
That’s a non-answer. I guess you’re not game.
Nope; never does.
Not really. You’re not a really good dancer.
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You sound like my mommy.
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I WAS just asking.
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Cites?
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The question I posed was in response to her revelation that she always knew the father of her child was a worthless, good-for-nothing bum. All I asked was, if she knew that, why did she allow him to impregnate her. She had said nothing about the pregnancy being unexpected until, in response to my question, she told me it was an accident (birth control failure). Furthermore, nothing in her response indicates that she thought I was trying to “trash” her.
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My question assumes that, except for rape, women can control with whom they engage in coitus. If I am wrong…please…educate me.
Perhaps not, but you, apparently, are no dancer at all.
Meh. It may have been a rude and blunt question to ask, but I don’t think it was trollish.
I was wondering something similar: “If you knew all along he was a bum, what was the attraction? How did you end up with this loser in the first place?”
Then I read the part about how he was a musician and it all made sense, so I didn’t really have to ask. Most women (myself included) go through a phase where we’re attracted to loserish dirtbags solely because they are musicians. Too bad she got stuck with her dirtbag musician for so long, is all.
(Before anyone gets offended by my characterization of musicians, note that my fiance is a musician too, yet so far does not appear to be a dirtbag. It just seems like many dirtbags get a pass on their dirtbaggery from women because they are musicians, not that all musicians are dirtbag).
I know what you mean, my ex-girlfriend played the clarinet.
The overreaction to a one sentence question with no follow up is ridiculous. Mosier has created this fictional troll bogey man out of one insensitive question. His “troll” stopped talking about it when a mod asked him to.
You indicated there was no threadshitting prior to gms453’s post, which was well after people were taking her to task for “leaving him with nothing”, etc.
I’m not sure I’d call him a troll, but I wouldn’t be so quick to say he isn’t one simply because he stopped when asked by a mod. He kept asking (more or less) the same question over and over again in a way that was pretty obvious that there could be no “right” answer to it.
It smacked of an accusation how pregnancy is always the fault of the woman because she “let” a man impregnate her. It’s sexist horseshit and he kept needling about it all the while pretending it was just a simple question and gosh o golly why can’t someone just answer it? Your assertion that it was one insensitive question is pretty silly when you see how many times he went back and forth being ever more dense at each turn.
Add to the fun that he likes to pretend anyone answering is hysterical (as in calm down hysterical woman!) when they answer him for his “simple, straight forward question” when it’s neither simple nor straight forward. The back and forth and back and forth and back and forth dance of duhhhhh he did with several posters should be enough for anyone to see he was hardly asking an innocent question but wanting to rub the OP’s nose in her “mistake” of almost two decades ago that (unless she has a time machine) she handled the best she could.
So for the tl;dr crowd: He’s probably not a troll, just an unoriginal and dull witted jackass.
I am not surprised someone made that comment. It happens often in threads about marital breakup. No excuses; it is still ugly behaviour.
I still feel like people are pinning more than the fair share of blame on one poster. There were lots of posters in that thread who had less than kind things to say about Foxy40’s life decisions. I think Mosier jumped into troll hunter mode a bit prematurely, and a bit arbitrarily. After reading the thread, I also wondered why exactly Foxy40 made the decisions she did regarding her husband, seeing as she claims that he essentially has no redeemable attributes, and she also claims that she’s always known that.
This pitting is making a mountain out of a molehill.
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