Het male here, and I would say I am goodlooking (you might disagree, but you’d be wrong) and I never look at other men.
The one time I did notice was my first trip to Manhattan. Eveyone (men and women) there seemd so goodlooking, but then I realized I was probably just looking at the way they dressed and acted since I was in the Wall Street area.
For me, my reaction depends on whether you’re asking me now, or me 10 years ago.
I’ve never thought of myself as good-looking, because I was teased a lot. I was quite the insufferable little poindexter and didn’t get classmates hitting on me… ever. I never even got asked out on dates or anything, until fairly late in high school (when I learned to pretend to be mellow and unintelligent, even though I wasn’t). Retrospectively, and looking back at pictures, I see now that I was quite trim and cute for several years in my teens. Anytime I saw an attractive girl during those years, I always felt inferior and jealous. I wasted a lot of time reading teen mags in those days, and hung out with a crowd that focused a lot more on looks than they should have (considering most of my friends were fat or plain or poorly-maintained–or all three).
Nowadays, I just glance at them and think, “Hmm those are nice hooters/legs/eyes/hairstyle.” It’s more of a factual observation with a hint of appreciation (like I otherwise reserve for a nice piece of artwork). Then I go back to thinking about whatever I was thinking about before seeing that person. There is no sense of “competition” because I am in no way attractive to anyone but the most desperate members of the opposite sex. I don’t court attention in public, I just try to be invisible.
Straight female, 35. I notice attractive people of both sexes. Usually if it’s a particularly attractive male, I might walk by and think, “Yum!” then move on. If I notice an attractive woman, I usually think, “Wow, she’s beautiful,” then move on. Usually what attracts me is a man with a particularly compelling look or exceptionally delicious hands or a woman with a luscious butt. Hey, I’m married, not blind. But hitting on someone else would never cross my mind.
As far as my own attractiveness goes… Well, I definitely used to be more attractive than I am now. I used to be younger and thinner. But I’m not completely unfortunate looking (decent hair, fairly nice boobs, proportionate figure) and my husband and children seem to think I’m beautiful. I’m also comfortable in my own skin. Those are the things that matter.