I’ve never been attracted to really good-looking guys. I mean, I like to look at them but that’s about all I want to do. On the other hand, expose me to an average- (or sometimes below average) looking guy on a regular basis long enough for me to know that he’s reasonably intelligent and has more than the average allotment of human decency, after a while, the hormones start kicking in. Anybody else out there have this experience?
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Naw – wrong gender. But I bet a gal who says she’s attracted to average (or even below average!) appearing guys will become really popular really quick on this board.
My Child Is An Honour Student At Hogwarts
Good looking guys aren’t unattractive in the aesthetic sense. Neither is a well done magazine ad, but that doesn’t mean I want to spend a whole lot of time on 'em either.
Looks are fine, but it’s just gloss. The real zest and zing and ka-POW comes from intelligence, humor, personality. I’ll take character and some rough edges any day.
It’d be interesting to see if the males on the board would say the same about looks in regard to women.
Veb
I know exactly what you mean… I think it’s the “Barbie Doll” factor. I would much rather be with a guy who has some individuality and uniqueness in his looks than just another Rob Lowe ( or Ricky Martin, or Leonardo Di Caprio).
There are always exceptions to any case…but I have found that most exceptionally good looking guys…are too busy trying to keep up their image to really put any heart into a relationship. They don’t really treat their women good for the simple reason…they know they can always get another one…I’d rather take an average guy…with a great sense of humor…any day of the week…a good heart is worlds better than good looks.
“Do or do not, there is no try” - Yoda
It’s the consciousness of gorgeousness that can be so unattractive in a man. There’s just something unappealing about a guy who seems too aware of his appearance.
Catrandom
I like gorgeous, vacuous women. Talking is highly overated, anyway. Talk,talk,talk; everybody keeps running their mouths. Just roll over and go to sleep.
Not so fast, you mucko!
The guy who I have been attracted to for several months now is pretty geeky looking. He is super smart, however, and that is what attracts me.
i have dated extremely good-looking guys many times (indluding a male model) & i heartily agree they can be pretty vacuous. my theory is these adonises are so used to women being thrilled to just be seen in their company that they never learn to put anything into being great to be with. they don’t have to: they have a regular built-in audience.
they generally don’t know how to carry on a conversation & are invariably piss-poor in bed. pretty to look at, but boring.
gimme a guy w/ brains & a sense of humor & i’m putty. sexiest thing going: a chemical engineer w/ a warped sense of humor. makes me wet thinking about it.
Stay with me folks, I’m certain I’m driving towards a concusion here, but I refuse to stop and ask for directions.
Baloo
Well, I hardly represent men in general, but as a male i can say that I tend to be attracted to the less than “perfect looking women”. I am drawn towards a wide range of women, and the triats they have in commen are invariable personality, sense of humor, sense of honor (In the honesty and respect catagory).
Looks just aren’t that important.
Of course, my SO is really cute, so it’s all gravy.
You say “cheesy” like that’s a BAD thing.
My experience has been that female attractiveness is directly correlated to personality. Women I’ve gotten to know and like get prettier to me all the time. Women I was initially attracted to but later discovered to have an unpleasant personality became physically unattractive as well.
My Child Is An Honour Student At Hogwarts
I’m a straight guy, so I can’t talk about being attracted ANY man, handsome or not.
But as far as women go, physically I prefer dark hair and small… you know.
Personality-wise, I like someone who will put up with my constant barrage of truly-aweful jokes! (And my mania for aircraft, and no-budget films, and…) LOL
I dont think looks matter much at all. I’ve gone out with not bad looking men with no more morals than ones that were not that great looking. Men tend to let their egos inflate when receiving female attention, to a point where some of them dont really care about anybody but themselves and females become the treat of the week.
Unfortunate but true, sometimes there isnt a whole lot of honour in this world. I find now I look for someone who is a true gentleman, preferably my own age or older.
A little old fashioned with a sense of humour and honesty is preferable to me. They tend to be more mature and have a focus on life and the value of ones self. I’ve been down the road with the dishonest ones and it was no fun.
We are, each of us angels with only one wing,and we can only fly by embracing one another
wooooo excellent post CanadianSue… couldn’t have said it better myself. It’s true that most people do want honesty…but very few people give it…they only “claim” to give it. Honesty should not come “after” the fact…and with age comes maturity…good points…
“Do or do not, there is no try” - Yoda
Looks are not that important.
I think any woman can be attractive, with the right lighting … and enough beer.
Is it too much to ask, to get blind-drunk for a lady?
I think not … chivalry is alive and well … (hic)
I will have to agree with all the personality making someone attractive posts. I have run the gamut of looks/personality combinations, and it is always the case. I once dated a very sweet, incredibly gorgeous fella with such a low self-esteem that I eventually agreed with him on the point of his utter unattractiveness.
If she’s ugly, have another beer. If she says no, give 'er another beer.
Seriously though, all date rape jokes aside…
I’ll probably always find myself initially attracted to prettier girls. After that, she HAS to have a personality of some sort, and she has to be nice.
Surely you ladies that don’t like super good looking guys do have your limits though. I mean you do have to have some physical attraction to someone.
Let’s say you met a guy on the internet and found him to be the most fascinating man you’ve ever met. You’ve never “clicked” with someone like him before. And then you meet him and are totally appalled by his looks (let’s say he’s 5’6 and 275 lbs. it seems fat is what most people consider one of the least attractive traits.) You might say to yourself “self, you superficial twit. give the guy a chance.” But then you come to realize that he just repulses you physically and you dump him. Does that mean you are superficial? Or does it simply mean you have some standards when it comes to looks?
Men are most likely to be superficial and more into how someone looks then women. Still if you are a fairly decent looking woman, I would bet the so-called average looking guys (or below average as some have stated)that you date are not complete ogres. And I would also wager that the nicest most pleasant ogre in the world would be ignored by most women (assuming they themselves are not ogres). I don’t think that makes anyone a bad person, or even overly superficial. Just honest. Although I do wonder, if we were all blind, how would we know who or what is physically unattractive?
I personally love a woman that has some meat on her. She still has to have a pretty face though because I love to kiss with my eyes open. Although that again is a subjective term. I have found that the better someone treats you can make them more and more attractive to you. Even to the point where an average looking person can suddenly become the most attractive person you’ve ever known.
I can’t stand this anorexic trend the country has taken. Thin women don’t turn me on at all. I would much rather have a woman with nice hips and thick thighs (tits i can take or leave, as long as she has some i’m happy. smaller ones are nicer because they don’t get as saggy. but most larger women (and i use that term with much caution because believe me when i tell you women that have more on them look healthier and more beautiful to me then anorexic looking women) but still the same, larger women tend to have larger breasts. Oh well, she’s still beautiful! Ahh how I would have loved the days of The Renaissance! When a buxom woman was appreciated and could be herself.
Nowadays women with what is perceived as any kind of weight problem are made to feel like they are some sort of circus freak. And yet, those women are generally the most fun to be with, in my opinion extremely beautiful and they make excellent lovers, wives & mothers.
And above all of that is attitude. I love a woman with a humble and submissive attitude. Not because I want to lord over her, but because I am also like that. I love to please the person I am with and I love to do things for her. I am still a strong man and can make decisions, protect and all that manly stuff. But I love nothing more then to please the woman I love. I love to treat her like a queen but I also insist on being treated like a king.
And by far the most attractive thing to me in a woman is this: being feminine. I don’t know if I can exactly describe it. I know it when I see it though. But a feminine woman drives me wild. I guess that means a woman that loves being a woman.
Enough of my rant though.
The ever insensitive, politically incorrect PitBullDawg.
Political correctness is a disease. Cure it with the truth.
I’ve found that when you really like someone,then meet them;and they don’t look like what you expected,your feelings for them Make them attractive.(sorry about punctuation)! Its happened to me.
After time, beauty fades. My soulmate has all the qualities I look for in a man. He is honest, playful, funny, senstive, considerate and most of all, he isn’t a helpless male. He knows how to cook, clean and groceryshop! The fact that he is a real hottie and thinks I am a goddess is just icing on the cake.
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!