Of course I’m going to the interview - it would be a great job and it’s not like I don’t need the interview practice. I do have a job that pays well but the institution is doing a lot of things I find personally and professionally repugnant. But the last time I applied for a job at the interview location, I asked how much they were paying for this position and they told me a number that’s about 12K less than I make now. This was a few years ago.
I’m not going to ask now, I’m going to wait to see if I get an offer and then try to negotiate, I guess. If I get it. Now, this job would be a breath of fresh air for me and professionally a step in the right direction, but money is TIGHT right now. My husband isn’t making near what he ought to be making, and he’s had a really hard time getting a better job. Plus we have a toddler.
And yet, it’s pretty bad here and it’s only going to get worse. I can see the future and it is soul crushing.
So… negotiating. With that big a difference, surely it would be a mistake to do what I would normally think you would do and ask for more than you want, right? (This would be at a small private college which doesn’t have one of those giant endowments or anything; it may well be that the figure I was quoted was all the budget can afford, period.) But if I quote my current salary surely they’re only going down?
How exactly would you negotiate this? And by how, I mean “what exactly would you say”? I have never done this before and am pretty uncomfortable with it, which I know is one reason why women don’t negotiate and then get crappy deals. But how can you tell if they really have nothing more to give you, as opposed to they just don’t want to? I mean, I AM in a position where I can just walk away… but this could be the best chance I’ve had in years.
How do I know when to say yes? (Obviously you can’t tell me that.) I mean what if I say no, and then two weeks later my husband does get that better job and I could have taken it?! Ugh, this is killing me and I haven’t even gone to the interview yet.