So when I was getting ready to leave the building this afternoon, I was caught in a jam in the hall. This is not suprising, since we have narrow halls and a lot of people. So I was just standing there, minding my own business, when a boy walks up to me and pulls my hair, hard. I glare at him and say, “Don’t.” He grins and does it again. I give him a worse glare, and say, “Don’t touch me.” He goes for my hair again, when I slap his hand away, and say louder, “Don’t touch me!” At about that time a teacher came by and scolded ME for being loud. The boy walks away with his friends calling me a bitch. I didn’t wind up in much trouble, but the teacher did yell at me, and the boy wasn’t bothered at all. How does this make sense? Grrrr…
How old is this boy? I’m guessing you’re at least in high school, from the sounds of it. Therefore he’s damn well old enough to know better. My mom used to say, “If a boy likes you, he’ll tease you”. I realized over the years that that was a crock of crap. What this little creep did is physical and emotional abuse. Pulling your hair hard enough to hurt you and then calling you a bitch for defending yourself?? If he gives you any more trouble, let the principal know. In my school days the school system didn’t seem to give a damn if a classmate was hurting you, but now they’re really cracking down on bullies.
You’re about 14, right? Is this really what other 14 year old boys are doing? I’d say “ooh it’s because he likes you!” but really that’s crap. That’s totally childish crap, all of it. Sorry you had to be bothered with that, that’d put a cramp in anyone’s day!
Some high school guys (you are in high school, right?) can be the absolute vomit-scum of the earth. The way some of them treated girls at my high school was completely sick. Forget about the lack of chivalry in today’s world, how about the lack of simple respect?
Sounds like another case of a teacher taking the easy way out. No need to take the effort to find out who is truly at fault, just yell at the first person you notice.
I’m with Maxxxie and Zebra. The proper order of events should go something like this:
He: (Pull)
You: Don’t do that.
He: (Pull)
You: (Loudly and clearly) I said don’t do that.
He: (Pull)
He: ArgohGodmyspleennothat’snotsupposedtogotheremylegmylegarg!!!
This one was obviously a fucknuggeted moron. Why that makes it necessary to make such a sweeping, general comment about the entire gender is something you will have to explain to me, I suppose.
Write it down. Write down the boy’s name, the teacher’s name, the date, the time, the place and exactly what happened. Write down who you told about it. Put this where you can find it if it happens again.
Go to your guidance counselor or the women’s dean and tell her what happened. Ask her how you should have handled it. Tell her you thought you were doing right by insisting the boy take his hands off you, but that you are confused by the other teacher’s reaction. Tell her you’ve written the incident down and if it happend again will have your parents make a formal complaint.
Tell the boy that you (or your dad) will kick his ass if he ever touches you again.
I think you handled it perfectly. That teacher is an ass for yelling at you and not taking the boy to task.
I read it as an echo of the fourth-grade-level reasoning that “girls are icky”/“boys are stupid,” and thus a comment on the intellectual maturity of the OP’s classmate. A yin to classmate’s yang, as it were. Or a yang to the yin. Whichever.
You know, I used to do this all the time. When I was a kid, my mom gave me a barbie doll pez dispenser. I, being a kid, loved candy. After I was forced into the social situations presented with school, kids would demand my pez which got tiresome - I had to stop bringing the pez dispenser, needless to say. For weeks after this I went through withdrawl. A few weeks after withdrawl I learned that girls dont have candy up their noses.
I cried.