Guys and Prostitutes ...

First posted on a MPSIMS thread …

**If you’re a man, wouldn’t there be well, a certain kind of pride you’d have in knowing that you were able to get laid without paying for it?

If I were a guy I’d die before admitting that I had to pay for sex.
However the guys on this message board that handy showed us seem to have absolutely no shame in blowing hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars for this very purpose.

So what’s the deal? Is it “acceptable” in the male culture to pay to get laid as long as she’s hot? Or is this something that, in the opinion of most men, only the truly desperate/ugly/stupid do?**

(The website, in case you’re wondering, is http://www.nvbrothels.net/cgi-bin/dcforum/dcboard.cgi?az=list&forum=DCForumID1&conf=DCConfID1)

I doubt there is any one answer, just as I doubt there is any one male culture.

For me, it was a sort of rite of passage in Army basic training.

Wasn’t much, neither physically nor monetarily.

I seriously doubt guys who pay for it go around bragging about it.

There’s something about hired sex that’s just so…commercial. I like to think a woman wants to go to bed with me. If I’m just the latest job, it’s not so special. It’s just like the gal who comes to fix my air conditioner. You know, “Hello, sir. Show me the unit. OK, I’ll get right on it. Good, it’s working fine now. Here’s my bill. Call me next time you need me.”

Speaking for myself I could never use a prostitute. For me I can only be intimate with someone after achieving some kind of intellectual or mental intimacy. I have also had to oppertunity for a one night stand a couple of times, and decided against it.

Also, none of my friends, if they have used such services, have ever bragged about it to me.

There’s no prestige in being a john, but there’s negative prestige in not getting laid at all.

Oddly enough, according to an old column by Xaviera Hollander, most johns are married. Paraphrasing, she said something like “Thank god for the married American woman who thinks her p**** is lined with gold. These women guarantee me a clientele for life!”

There’s something humiliating and demoralizing about not being sexually wanted by the people I’m attracted to as much as I want them. It’s humiliating and demoralizing to have to make passes at them more often than they make passes at me. Humiliating and demoralizing to be the first to express frank sexual interest more often than being the target of such expression.

Can’t honestly say that it gets much worse with the introduction of money, in all honesty.

I know some guys who have admitted it. Their wives/SOs may not like oral, say, or they have had an extended dry spell. It just never seemed right for me, but IMO it should be legalized.

And yes, for some of us it is extremely hard to get any.

On behalf of the Dutch, I would like to apologise for Xaviera Hollander. In my defense, she moved back and lives a couple of streets away from me now. I see her at the supermarket every month or so. Yikes.

To answer the OP: I won’t judge anyone for using the services of a prostitute. But I do know I would never do so.

Any guy who thinks he isn’t paying for it one way or another hasn’t been paying attention.

*“Dude, you bought her a car!?!”

Yeah, but now I get all the free sex I can handle."*

I once read somewhere, “you’re not paying a prostitute to have sex with you, you’re paying her to leave afterwards.”

Were I to seek sex outside of my marriage, a prostitute would probably be a better option than starting up an affair with someone who had been seeking an emotional relationship and would be hurt, and possibly angry to the point of seeking revenge, if I didn’t feel the same way. AFAIK, it’s not standard practice for a professional to demand that a john divorce his wife for her, or to show up on his front lawn at 3am screaming “but I loooooove you” (unless, of course, that’s what you’re paying them to do).

I agree with Bumbazine.

I think Sublight has hit the nail on the head…OK, bad pun.

I believe the use of a prostitute is more of convenience than necessity.

I’m sure the people (notice I didn’t say men) that use the services of a prostitute out of necessity probably wouldn’t be bragging about it.

Those that use a prostitute for sex-without-commitment would probably be a bit more open about it. IMO.

I’m one of the people that don’t understand the reason why prostitution is illegal.

Bumbazine is right; men have to pay for sex in one way or another anyway. Why pay for flowers, expensive meals, etc. AND spend an entire evening on a date when you can spend less money and get a sure thing in less time? If all you want is sex, hiring a prostitute is not only faster and cheaper, but it’s also more honest.

I hope I never get so cynical that I think wanting to buy things for someone you love while desiring physical intimacy with someone you love is no more than a business transaction.

thanks, Dr Lao

I wouldn’t imagine that Charlie Sheen used prostitutes because he couldn’t get any. As has been said there are many reasons why a man might seek out a prostitute.

:slight_smile: [sup]I’m wondering what peaked WV_Woman’s interest in this subject.[/sup]

I wouldn’t pay cash to get an STD…most prostitutes, I think, usually have one…

I’m probably gonna have to pay one way or another when in a relationship. After all, there is supposed to be some give & take.

It’s my feeling that, while in a relationship, I’m not “paying” for it. Rather, I think of it as an “investment” in the relationship.

FTR…the hooker I had was in 1971. As I said, it was nothing special. Rather bland, actually. Certainly didn’t persuade me to try it again, and I’d never consider it these days.