So my question is :: if a guy carries a bag like a women carries a purse, should I be asking some questions of him?
Do you know this guy? If not, then it’s none of your business. If you do, what sort of questions do you have in mind? Do you like the bag and want to know where he got it so you can get one like it too or something?
Or is he just standing there holding his wife’s purse? There are only a few ways to hold one of those things, and women have claimed all of them. So unless he is hanging it from his unit, he’s probably holding it like a chick.
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Not sure it really means anything. I have a laptop bag that I often carry with me. An easy way to carry my wallet, keys, cell phone, work id, cell phone charger, and a book.
I often carry a bag that I have a pen, tissue, antacids, jacket, and other things I may find useful. It also has clean up stuff, chews, treats, other things my puppy may need and the logo of the guide dog school it belongs to.
If you are a woman looking date, it could be a guy with a bag is a poor prospect. Otherwise, in this day and age, so what.
What sort of questions did you think you should ask?
Like what? (Not that it matters, the answer is “no.”)
When my GF has me hold her purse for whatever reason, I hold it in a way that no woman would, a la this, out and away from me like it’s radioactive waste.
I pay a passing urchin to hold it.
That’s just asking for it to be snatched.
…and wind up with a bag full of used tissues, a water bottle, and a pair of dollar store ear buds. I should be so lucky.
When I have to hold the wife’s back I just hold it. It doesn’t bother me at all. It is obvious it isn’t mine, so no sense in getting ashamed.
In that case I don’t blame you for treating it like radioactive waste.
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My dad was never bothered by carrying my mom’s purse, particularly when she was dealing with us three kids or taking pictures on vacation. Which is why we have 3 years worth of photos of the family in Europe with my dad holding a purse.
In a similar vein…Iggy Pop is not ashamed to “dress like a woman”, because it isn’t shameful to be a woman.
I had a colleague who carried a small purse. He wore a suit and didn’t want any wallet-shaped bulges. He certainly wasn’t effeminate in any way, just vain.
Is he wearing a kilt?
My son carries what he calls a “murse” to school. (He’s a junior in high school.) The student handbook has all these elaborate rules about what you can and can’t carry. Students can’t use their backpacks, for example, to carry books between classes. But the handbook does allow purses that meet certain size criteria, which his murse meets.
I was just waitin’ for the school administration to give him grief about is so I could go all ACLU on their asses for denying male students something that female students are allowed. But no one has said “boo” to him about it.
My son seems normal enough. The murse is a convenient way for him to carry a notebook, pens, that sort of thing.
You might want to sidle up to him and ask, “Is that your purse? That’s a nice purse.”
Some guys just love shouting “It’s not a purse!”